I will not become part of the larger debate here, but I will mention that my one friend who experienced this first-hand (in the early 1970s), was devastated.

I think that it would have helped her if her grief had been acknowledged by the larger society and that her “loss” had been softened by a generalized compassion, in any way possible. Back then, if someone spoke of it, like all death, it was for only a short time. Then others expected her to ‘get over it’.

She finally delivered a live-birth on the third attempt, but every pregnancy was heart-wrenching. Any balm for those who have pregnancies which go awry should be respected, regardless of politics or religious agendas. All that counts is helping the not-parents.

This callous treatment of anyone in bereavement still continues in this society, and fetuses or babies are just a part of it. I think this article just reflects the tip of a huge iceberg. Be kind every chance you get and realize mourning can take years, naturally, and that it is OK.

Best to all — Em
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