Comments on: Expose Toxic Parents and Grandparents http://www.bloggernews.net/123846 High-quality English language analysis and editorial writing on the news. Sun, 27 May 2012 18:57:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Scapegoat http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1749293 Scapegoat Sun, 12 Sep 2010 07:12:05 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1749293 I am still my sister's target, even though I have had nothing to do with her for over 2 years, I still keep hearing stories about myself!!! I used to think one day she'd change... don't pity her anymore, she is a lost cause, but I am not... her puppets loss when they choose to attack me based on her tales of her woe & my allegded evil deeds... & because of their own egos her puppets will never see her strings in their lives! I am still my sister’s target, even though I have had nothing to do with her for over 2 years, I still keep hearing stories about myself!!! I used to think one day she’d change… don’t pity her anymore, she is a lost cause, but I am not… her puppets loss when they choose to attack me based on her tales of her woe & my allegded evil deeds…
& because of their own egos her puppets will never see her strings in their lives!

]]> By: Jacksgirl http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1649626 Jacksgirl Thu, 27 May 2010 18:07:45 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1649626 Thank you for this article. I am 55 my father is almost 87. Yesterday for the Zillionth time he used me to vent his anger and be the family scape-goat. Each time it happens I am transported back to being 10 years old when the verbal and emotional abuse began. Interestingly my father has always singled me (and none of my brothers) out for this treatment. He also bullied my mother (when she was alive) who would then tell me that he bullied her because she was trying to stand up for me! Double whammy. Guilt, feelings of inadequacy and inability to believe I am worth any love from anyone. It is extraordinary that as an adult I am still longing for unconditional love from him and also trying to win his acceptance. I googled 'parent bullying adult child' because I am finally ready to stop the cycle, protect myself and let him take the consequences of his actions - not see me again. Thank you. Thank you for this article. I am 55 my father is almost 87. Yesterday for the Zillionth time he used me to vent his anger and be the family scape-goat. Each time it happens I am transported back to being 10 years old when the verbal and emotional abuse began.

Interestingly my father has always singled me (and none of my brothers) out for this treatment. He also bullied my mother (when she was alive) who would then tell me that he bullied her because she was trying to stand up for me! Double whammy. Guilt, feelings of inadequacy and inability to believe I am worth any love from anyone.

It is extraordinary that as an adult I am still longing for unconditional love from him and also trying to win his acceptance.

I googled ‘parent bullying adult child’ because I am finally ready to stop the cycle, protect myself and let him take the consequences of his actions - not see me again.

Thank you.

]]> By: Grandma http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1570266 Grandma Thu, 08 Apr 2010 21:37:41 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1570266 WOW! What a terrific web site. I grew up in a very abusive home. Now I see my da-in-law abusing and bullying my gson and it is heartbreaking. I have told her in no uncertain terms to stop. I have no idea what my son is saying or is not saying to her. I can't believe he would tolerate the situation. Needless to they aren't speaking to me. Oh well. The child is more important because he can't defend himself. Someone has to standup for children. I'm considering calling child protective. It is just so hard to prove until you witness it. Blessing to everyone involved with this site. WOW! What a terrific web site. I grew up in a very abusive home. Now I see my da-in-law abusing and bullying my gson and it is heartbreaking. I have told her in no uncertain terms to stop. I have no idea what my son is saying or is not saying to her. I can’t believe he would tolerate the situation. Needless to they aren’t speaking to me. Oh well. The child is more important because he can’t defend himself. Someone has to standup for children. I’m considering calling child protective. It is just so hard to prove until you witness it. Blessing to everyone involved with this site.

]]> By: jakewriter http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1512415 jakewriter Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:53:05 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1512415 These are great ideas, but sometimes difficult to put into action if you're living with or near parents. Nonetheless, the attitude makes a big difference. jakewriter These are great ideas, but sometimes difficult to put into action if you’re living with or near parents.

Nonetheless, the attitude makes a big difference.

jakewriter

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]]> By: Karon Cox http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1509205 Karon Cox Wed, 17 Feb 2010 01:36:03 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/123846#comment-1509205 This is a hard subject for people who had wonderful parents to understand. It is unheard of that parents could be abusive to people who had good parents. For that reason, I rarely ever speak of my parents to anyone outside of my family. People look at you and say, even if she abused and neglected you, that was "your mother." All I can say is, I spent most of my adult life trying to have some kind of relationship and still keep enough distance to keep from having my life destroyed by my mother. In the end, she had destroyed all of the relationships between her children, and we have no family. On a more positive note, I was able to learn from my parent's mistakes, and I was able to give my child a good childhood. I did not tell my son anything bad about my parents until he was grown, but I kept him at a safe distance from my parents. I had to. Even now talking about this, I feel I will be misunderstood by many, but that is O.K. This is a hard subject for people who had wonderful parents to understand. It is unheard of that parents could be abusive to people who had good parents. For that reason, I rarely ever speak of my parents to anyone outside of my family. People look at you and say, even if she abused and neglected you, that was “your mother.”

All I can say is, I spent most of my adult life trying to have some kind of relationship and still keep enough distance to keep from having my life destroyed by my mother. In the end, she had destroyed all of the relationships between her children, and we have no family.

On a more positive note, I was able to learn from my parent’s mistakes, and I was able to give my child a good childhood. I did not tell my son anything bad about my parents until he was grown, but I kept him at a safe distance from my parents. I had to.

Even now talking about this, I feel I will be misunderstood by many, but that is O.K.

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