http://www.bloggernews.net/122858 High-quality English language analysis and editorial writing on the news. Thu, 16 Feb 2012 00:01:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 http://www.bloggernews.net/122858#comment-1527551 Recovering Wed, 03 Mar 2010 13:07:22 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122858#comment-1527551 I'm in my early thirties and still dealing with toxicity from them. Since I have had no children of my own and am single - a career woman basically, apparently my achievements are not good enough. They believe that everything I do/have achieved is for myself therefore not valuable at all. They love to deny stress in me as well - nobody can be more stressed, more tired or more unwell than they are at any time. Well I certainly can't anyway... I'm sick of being a good girl, last night after a blow up with them, I had really had enough of being the 'good' one, the well behaved one, the academic clever one. I wanted to be a bad child like my younger brother and swear, get drunk, take drugs, have a criminal record. Also perhaps I should have got pregnant at 16 and not bothered to go to college or university. They think no more of me for it - I'm the worst daughter in the world because I won't make them a cup of tea on demand, wash everybodys dishes on demand or volunteer to clean the house up on demand. I'm running two businesses, studying full time for a degree, am an education professional and am writing a novel. But apparently I still have time to cover their lives as well. I've achieved what I have partly to make them proud of having a half decent daughter who didn't get herself knocked up early or end up on the dole as soon as she left school. I'm first in my entire family to go to university and have a professional career, but it seems it wasn't good enough for them. I’m in my early thirties and still dealing with toxicity from them. Since I have had no children of my own and am single - a career woman basically, apparently my achievements are not good enough. They believe that everything I do/have achieved is for myself therefore not valuable at all.
They love to deny stress in me as well - nobody can be more stressed, more tired or more unwell than they are at any time. Well I certainly can’t anyway…
I’m sick of being a good girl, last night after a blow up with them, I had really had enough of being the ‘good’ one, the well behaved one, the academic clever one. I wanted to be a bad child like my younger brother and swear, get drunk, take drugs, have a criminal record. Also perhaps I should have got pregnant at 16 and not bothered to go to college or university. They think no more of me for it - I’m the worst daughter in the world because I won’t make them a cup of tea on demand, wash everybodys dishes on demand or volunteer to clean the house up on demand. I’m running two businesses, studying full time for a degree, am an education professional and am writing a novel. But apparently I still have time to cover their lives as well.
I’ve achieved what I have partly to make them proud of having a half decent daughter who didn’t get herself knocked up early or end up on the dole as soon as she left school. I’m first in my entire family to go to university and have a professional career, but it seems it wasn’t good enough for them.

]]> http://www.bloggernews.net/122858#comment-1487081 The Canuck Wed, 20 Jan 2010 15:08:14 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122858#comment-1487081 I just came across this article and I must say thank you to the writer. I must remind myself daily that I am not a "bad girl" (at age 48 lol) for separating myself from my toxic parent. I just came across this article and I must say thank you to the writer. I must remind myself daily that I am not a “bad girl” (at age 48 lol) for separating myself from my toxic parent.

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