Comments on: Stop Bullies: Why Do Bullies Keep Abusing Us? http://www.bloggernews.net/122490 High-quality English language analysis and editorial writing on the news. Fri, 17 Feb 2012 12:47:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Jackie C. http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1899901 Jackie C. Sun, 19 Jun 2011 09:43:28 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1899901 For all of us that are bullied....I know your pain. I was bullied by my husband, and divorced him for it, and he just got worse. He paid off my attorney to misrepresent me, and taught my children to bully me. He made threats, "I will ruin your life." Always they try to make themselves look innocent, and villify the victims. I've begged, tried reasoning and logic, and decided I have to give up trying to be a mother to my adult children. I remarried and my daughter came here, and decided my new husband was under her orders and her Dad's orders to bully me also,....and she said if that did not work, I would have to move out. Can you imagine an adult daughter demanding her mother move out of her home....and she's happily remarried. We had to ask her to leave. She also decided her finance has to bully me and thank God....he refused to cooperate with her. It is so painful...I was not allowed to read books, speak to people, drive to work (with my own car which I paid for), ...my jobs, schooling, made fun of, called insane, and constantly their number one excuse is "Who cares what we do to you...nobody likes you anyway." I've pointed out recently to them, that they are extreme bullies....little Hitlers, and it must stop, or I may have to bring them to court to demand they stop. Yet, I don't believe they can stop. Bullying me, makes them so happy. Infact, the relationship with my children and their father is "We bully together...therefore that means we love each other." Thank God my new husband is not like them, and sees through their performances. I believe that some bullies become addicted to it, and their best talent in life is learning how to get by with bullying others. Anytime the victims try to show them peace and love...they consider you to be weak and vulnerable. I believe that documenting all bully events is important for the victims, because we tend to want peace and we IGNORE much of it, then we do not take appropriate actions SOON ENOUGH. I also believe that the longer we are bullied, the least likely we can make a change in escaping the bullies. So far for me, my best options have been to notice they are bullying me...and sometimes they can do it in nice ways, then it suddenly turns violent, and twisted. After noticing it, get away from them...and do what God says, and hand it over to him. Let go and let God. "Vengence is mine say it the Lord,"...and what happens next is KARMA....they end up getting back what they did to me, in some other way. It has nothing to do with me...it just happens. God's word is always truthful. We are more fortunate to be the victims, than they are to be the Bullies. We see it with eyes wide open,and they have LOGS IN THEIR EYES...and much pain will be needed to remove their own logs. All of the pain they have given to us, THEY HAVE SO EARNED FOR THEMSELVES....it's just a matter of time. In the mean time, go and love yourself, and thank God for the good people, and good things in your life, and then those things will increase. Avoid the bullies as much as possible. Don't try to fix them..that is the same as throwing "Your pearls to the pigs."...not the direction God intended for us. Not our job to fix them, even if we love them...God's job. My prayers are for you all.... Another Victim For all of us that are bullied….I know your pain. I was bullied by my husband, and divorced him for it, and he just got worse. He paid off my attorney to misrepresent me, and taught my children to bully me. He made threats, “I will ruin your life.” Always they try to make themselves look innocent, and villify the victims. I’ve begged, tried reasoning and logic, and decided I have to give up trying to be a mother to my adult children. I remarried and my daughter came here, and decided my new husband was under her
orders and her Dad’s orders to bully me also,….and she said if that did not work, I would have to move out. Can you imagine an adult daughter demanding her mother move out of her home….and she’s happily remarried. We had to ask her to leave. She also decided her finance has to bully me and thank God….he refused to cooperate with her.
It is so painful…I was not allowed to read books, speak to people, drive to work (with my own car which I paid for), …my jobs, schooling, made fun of, called insane, and constantly their number one excuse is “Who cares what we do to you…nobody likes you anyway.” I’ve pointed out recently to them, that they are extreme bullies….little Hitlers, and it must stop, or I may have to bring them to court to demand they stop. Yet, I don’t believe they can stop. Bullying me,
makes them so happy. Infact, the relationship with my children and their father is “We bully together…therefore that means we love each other.” Thank God my new husband is not like them, and sees through their performances.

I believe that some bullies become addicted to it, and their best talent in life is learning how to get by with bullying others. Anytime the victims try to show them peace and love…they consider you to be weak and vulnerable.

I believe that documenting all bully events is important for the victims, because we tend to want peace and we IGNORE much of it, then we do not take appropriate actions SOON ENOUGH.

I also believe that the longer we are bullied, the least likely we can make a change in escaping the bullies.

So far for me, my best options have been to notice they are bullying me…and sometimes they can do it in nice ways, then it suddenly turns violent, and twisted. After noticing it,
get away from them…and do what God says, and hand it over to him. Let go and let God. “Vengence is mine say it the Lord,”…and what happens next is KARMA….they end up getting back what they did to me, in some other way. It has nothing to do with me…it just happens. God’s word is always truthful.

We are more fortunate to be the victims, than they are to be the Bullies. We see it with eyes wide open,and they have LOGS IN THEIR EYES…and much pain will be needed to remove their own logs. All of the pain they have given to us, THEY HAVE SO EARNED FOR THEMSELVES….it’s just a matter of time.

In the mean time, go and love yourself, and thank God for the good people, and good things in your life, and then those things will increase. Avoid the bullies as much as possible. Don’t try to fix them..that is the same as throwing “Your pearls to the pigs.”…not the direction God intended for us.

Not our job to fix them, even if we love them…God’s job.

My prayers are for you all….

Another Victim

]]> By: Twitter @ Pros_LifeCoach http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1640731 Twitter @ Pros_LifeCoach Sat, 22 May 2010 21:00:58 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1640731 I must say that it is easier said than done to stop a bully. To do that you need an ally. Many people don't and the bullies are very skillful about twisting what you allegedly said and did in order to alienate you from others and from seeking help. They are also very quick to provoke and then pretend to be the victim. With that said, I encourage those who suffer from bullying especially in the family where - you very soon end up all on your own (actually - you've always been on your own, just never paid attention to it) to GET SOMEBODY ON THEIR SIDE. Somebody who can advice them how to hold their ground and how to not fall into the guilt traps and manipulation traps of the bully. I know from experience! I must say that it is easier said than done to stop a bully. To do that you need an ally. Many people don’t and the bullies are very skillful about twisting what you allegedly said and did in order to alienate you from others and from seeking help. They are also very quick to provoke and then pretend to be the victim. With that said, I encourage those who suffer from bullying especially in the family where - you very soon end up all on your own (actually - you’ve always been on your own, just never paid attention to it) to GET SOMEBODY ON THEIR SIDE. Somebody who can advice them how to hold their ground and how to not fall into the guilt traps and manipulation traps of the bully. I know from experience!

]]> By: TDWP http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1632109 TDWP Tue, 18 May 2010 14:06:22 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1632109 I think bullying should stop because kids are getting hurt and scared by it and if its bad enought it sometime causes sucide. I think bullying should stop because kids are getting hurt and scared by it and if its bad enought it sometime causes sucide.

]]> By: wmillard http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1562099 wmillard Fri, 02 Apr 2010 15:04:09 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1562099 WILLIAM H. MILLARD 306 North Brooks Street Room 409 Madison, Wisconsin 53715 ATTENTION: To whom it may concern My name is Mr. William H. Millard. I live at Porch light Properties located in Madison, Wisconsin. I own a research and development corporation whose duty and function is that one of the innovation and development of the new kinds of the sciences, technologies and industries what I would like to innovate and build in Wisconsin. and I am a single man interested in my male peers whose is being bullied by the mal-contents and mal-performing residents and land-lord located at Porch Light Properties here in Madison, Wisconsin. The problem of my being bullied by persons in my community continues to be of the occurrence un-abating even with the Madison Police Department who would also seem t be a collection of bullies, and the management of Porch light, Incorporated also. In this way I am writing, to you, to let you know of the latter alluded difficulties. And you can find out and learn the more as related to my new scientifiaque, technologically and industrially related directions by reading the content of my web site having that URL what is: Respectfully, William H. Millard wmillard@earthlink.net Post script: Please help me stop the bullying policies had of my male peers where Iive. My telephone number is WILLIAM H. MILLARD
306 North Brooks Street
Room 409
Madison, Wisconsin 53715

ATTENTION: To whom it may concern

My name is Mr. William H. Millard. I live at Porch light Properties located in Madison, Wisconsin. I own a research and development corporation whose duty and function is that one of the innovation and development of the new kinds of the sciences, technologies and industries what I would like to innovate and build in Wisconsin. and I am a single man interested in my male peers whose is being bullied by the mal-contents and mal-performing residents and land-lord located at Porch Light Properties here in Madison, Wisconsin.

The problem of my being bullied by persons in my community continues to be of the occurrence un-abating even with the Madison Police Department who would also seem t be a collection of bullies, and the management of Porch light, Incorporated also. In this way I am writing, to you, to let you know of the latter alluded difficulties. And you can find out and learn the more as related to my new scientifiaque, technologically and industrially related directions by reading the content of my web site having that URL what is:

Respectfully,
William H. Millard
wmillard@earthlink.net

Post script:

Please help me stop the bullying policies had of my male peers where Iive. My telephone number is

]]> By: crkelly http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1526313 crkelly Tue, 02 Mar 2010 16:34:59 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1526313 Hello, I have gone through so many moments where I wish I could go back in time or move. I am only 13 so I know what's going on right now, most girls either attack because of jealousy. I am searching the web because I don't know what to do about these people at school who won't leave me alone. Here's what happened, I have had this best friend for as long as I can remember and there are two girls who are jealous about that, so they made up rumors that I said stuff about her and now she hates me and she is with them instead of me.. That all happened yesterday and I cried last night because I didn't know what to do about those girls. They have always been like that and trying to be people they aren't. It just makes me really upset why they do that. The only two things I have are a boy, He's amazing and the only thing I can do to cheer myself I to read his texts, Or dance.(ballet,pointe, and jazz) those are the only two things that matter to me right now. so if someone wants to tell me the best thing to do.. please help me. please. Hello, I have gone through so many moments where I wish I could go back in time or move. I am only 13 so I know what’s going on right now, most girls either attack because of jealousy. I am searching the web because I don’t know what to do about these people at school who won’t leave me alone. Here’s what happened, I have had this best friend for as long as I can remember and there are two girls who are jealous about that, so they made up rumors that I said stuff about her and now she hates me and she is with them instead of me.. That all happened yesterday and I cried last night because I didn’t know what to do about those girls. They have always been like that and trying to be people they aren’t. It just makes me really upset why they do that. The only two things I have are a boy, He’s amazing and the only thing I can do to cheer myself I to read his texts, Or dance.(ballet,pointe, and jazz) those are the only two things that matter to me right now. so if someone wants to tell me the best thing to do.. please help me. please.

]]> By: What doesn't kill you makes you angrier. http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1478976 What doesn't kill you makes you angrier. Wed, 06 Jan 2010 06:02:02 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1478976 <i>So why do bullies keep abusing us: Because they’re not stopped by the responsible adults. Also, the responsible adults don’t train the targets and bystanders how to stop the bullies. In addition, principals, teachers and parents often punish the targets for taking matters into their own hands, tongues or fists. The secret to stopping bullies is to stop them. Be as firm as you need – bullies will show you what you must do to stop them.</i> That's exactly what I've been saying for my entire life. If only everyone thought like you, I probably wouldn't have PTSD and a thousand bad memories of begging the principal to just make my classmates leave me alone. So why do bullies keep abusing us: Because they’re not stopped by the responsible adults. Also, the responsible adults don’t train the targets and bystanders how to stop the bullies. In addition, principals, teachers and parents often punish the targets for taking matters into their own hands, tongues or fists.

The secret to stopping bullies is to stop them. Be as firm as you need – bullies will show you what you must do to stop them.

That’s exactly what I’ve been saying for my entire life. If only everyone thought like you, I probably wouldn’t have PTSD and a thousand bad memories of begging the principal to just make my classmates leave me alone.

]]> By: Ben Leichtling http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1420289 Ben Leichtling Sat, 10 Oct 2009 03:37:04 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1420289 Hi Cobra, Logic doesn’t stop real bullies. Stopping them stops them. Have fun, Ben Hi Cobra,

Logic doesn’t stop real bullies. Stopping them stops them.

Have fun,
Ben

]]> By: Ben Leichtling http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1420287 Ben Leichtling Sat, 10 Oct 2009 03:35:01 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1420287 Hi Ash berry, I focus first on stopping bullies, not on analyzing, understanding, rehabilitating or therapeutizing them. First, stop bullies. Then you can teach them better ways to be with people. Stopping them is the best motivator for getting bullies to change their tactics. Of course it doesn’t work 100 percent of the time, but it works most of the time. The same with analyzing why people don’t stop bullies. There are enough people who want to stop them that we can. See “How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks.” Best wishes, Ben Hi Ash berry,

I focus first on stopping bullies, not on analyzing, understanding, rehabilitating or therapeutizing them. First, stop bullies. Then you can teach them better ways to be with people.

Stopping them is the best motivator for getting bullies to change their tactics.

Of course it doesn’t work 100 percent of the time, but it works most of the time.

The same with analyzing why people don’t stop bullies. There are enough people who want to stop them that we can.

See “How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks.”

Best wishes,
Ben

]]> By: Ben Leichtling http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1420284 Ben Leichtling Sat, 10 Oct 2009 03:27:37 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1420284 Hi I-won’t-call-you-nobody, Rowdy isn’t bad when agreed upon by all participants. Rowdy shoved down someone’s unwilling throat is bad. Parents can teach kids the difference and kids can learn. Bullies have always been with us and always will. Some parents set bad examples and also protect their bullying kids from consequences. Like Lucius Malfoy in the Harry Potter series. It’s up to the rest of us to stop them. See “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids.” Best wishes, Ben Hi I-won’t-call-you-nobody,

Rowdy isn’t bad when agreed upon by all participants. Rowdy shoved down someone’s unwilling throat is bad. Parents can teach kids the difference and kids can learn.

Bullies have always been with us and always will. Some parents set bad examples and also protect their bullying kids from consequences. Like Lucius Malfoy in the Harry Potter series.

It’s up to the rest of us to stop them.

See “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids.”

Best wishes,
Ben

]]> By: Case Closed Inc. http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1416777 Case Closed Inc. Sun, 04 Oct 2009 03:41:21 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1416777 Stop Bullies: Why Do Bullies Keep Abusing Us? BECAUSE WE LET THEM. WE ALLOW US TO BE IMPRISONED BY FEAR, INFERIORITY, AND FEELINGS. TO OVERCOME, WE MUST DEAL WITH OUR ABUSE AND BULLIES WITH LOGIC, NOT BY FEELINGS. SMILE, YES SMILE EVERY ONCE AND A WHILE BECAUSE, GUYS LIKE THE ONE WRITING HERE, CATCHES UP TO ONE OF THEM. SO SMILE NEXT TIME YOU ENCOUNTER ONE, AS HIS ASS MAY BE NEXT! COBRA Stop Bullies: Why Do Bullies Keep Abusing Us?

BECAUSE WE LET THEM. WE ALLOW US TO BE IMPRISONED BY FEAR, INFERIORITY, AND FEELINGS. TO OVERCOME, WE MUST DEAL WITH OUR ABUSE AND BULLIES WITH LOGIC, NOT BY FEELINGS. SMILE, YES SMILE EVERY ONCE AND A WHILE BECAUSE, GUYS LIKE THE ONE WRITING HERE, CATCHES UP TO ONE OF THEM. SO SMILE NEXT TIME YOU ENCOUNTER ONE, AS HIS ASS MAY BE NEXT!

COBRA

]]> By: Ash berry http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1416731 Ash berry Sun, 04 Oct 2009 02:51:09 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1416731 Most people who bully prob lack self confidence and are easily angered @ something and take it out on people around them and kids that are in homes with physical and mental abuse do it because thats all they know mental abuse is rough also people who get bullied lack self confidence this world broadcasts what we are supposed to look like we are not supposed to be flawed it is all misconception we can stop a few but not them all just like we cant provide world peace Most people who bully prob lack self confidence and are easily angered @ something and take it out on people around them and kids that are in homes with physical and mental abuse do it because thats all they know mental abuse is rough also people who get bullied lack self confidence this world broadcasts what we are supposed to look like we are not supposed to be flawed it is all misconception we can stop a few but not them all just like we cant provide world peace

]]> By: A nobody http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1416675 A nobody Sun, 04 Oct 2009 01:30:52 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/122490#comment-1416675 too many parents allow their kid/kids to watch rowdy movies & play rowdy games. Or they have the bullying in their own home. It's sad! too many parents allow their kid/kids to watch rowdy movies & play rowdy games. Or they have the bullying in their own home. It’s sad!

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