Robert Siciliano Personal Security Expert
So you’re about to go on a date with a person you met briefly in the frozen food section of the supermarket who says to you “You better get out of this aisle because you’re so hot, you’re gonna melt all this stuff”. Flattered and hungry for companionship you immediately agree to go out on a date with Mr Cheeseball.
Well maybe this wouldn’t be you, but someone you know. Anyway, the best way to find out about Gorgonzola is to do a quick search on them. Coming soon to the iPhone, Android and Blackberry will be a mobile application from http://www.intelius.com/mobile called Date Check.
Intelius launched Date Check at the DEMOfall09 conference and demonstrates how easy it is to “Look Up Before You Hookup”. Sound crazy? Not as crazy as some of the people I’m sure you’ve met on the scene. It’s easy enough to enter a person’s name, phone number or e-mail address, and the application does a basic background check. Saving you lots of possible wasted time or possibly compromising your personal security.
The application has a few handy features to help you narrow down what may be potential issues about your potential Prince Alarming.
“Sleaze Detector” gets records of sex offenses and criminal convictions. This is a handy tool to determine if your potential mate is a bad seed. Good information to know and help you make an informed decision. There are a half million registered sex offenders out there. That’s no joke.
“Net Worth” checks property and tax records. This is general information that helps you to determine if they are truthful or lying about assets.
“Living Situation” finds other people living at the same address. So if he’s one of the majority of married men subscribed to online dating services and he tells you he is single, you can call his bluff.
“Interests” scans social networks and other references. It’s always a good idea to check the social media sites a person is connected to. If you discover that the person is affiliated with a supremacy organization that likes to sacrifice the occasional chicken, it’s probably a good idea to run. Fast.
Date Check is a tool to help you make a better decision.
1. Read books on self defense and personal security. Watch instructional videos on self defense techniques. Take a self defense course. The single most effective self defense offering on the planet is a program called “Impact Model Mugging”. Search it online and find one near you. Drive 500 miles if you have to, but take this course and bring your sons and daughters with you. In this case knowledge certainly is power.
2. You’ve heard this before and it requires revisiting: meet your date in a populated place and drive yourself. And do it at least the first 5 times. The goal here is you want to get to know the energy of this person and what makes them tick. If simple stuff irritates them or they make racist or offensive jokes or exhibit behaviors not conducive to “healthy”, move on.
3. Do not consume alcohol when meeting, even with food. Alcohol lowers our inhibitions and makes us accept behaviors that aren’t appropriate. Don’t accept drinks from anyone under any condition unless you see the drink being poured and it goes straight to your hands. Slipping drugs in drinks happens every day.
4. Be direct about going ‘dutch’ in regards to paying for dinner. While this may seem extreme to some, studies show an large percentage of males still believe that when they buy a woman dinner that she “owes” him sex.
5. Get information about them. You ask all the questions. Get their name, address, previous address, home phone, cell phone, place of birth, birthdate, where they work, license plate and if you can squeeze it out of them, and I kid you not, get their Social Security number.
Robert Siciliano Personal Security Expert discusses dating security on E! True Hollywood Stories Investigates
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11 users commented in " New iPhone App Helps Vet a Potential Mate "
Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackThis article implies ’sleazes’ are male, for the most part.
Does it let men know if their potential Tomato is a serial false rape accuser?
Has she committed paternity fraud or demanded money for an abortion she never had?
Does she/he have Herpes or other STDs?
How many men has she lived with? How much debt has she left them in?
Equal opportunity ’sleaze’ information, please.
Good point CantinaLena the app works for both male and female sleaze.
I generally refer to most sleaze as male, only due to the fact that there is a rape somewhere in the world every 56 seconds. 1 out 0f 4 women in the US will be come victims.
I will do my best to attribute bad to all sexes.
Let me get this straight: it’s only the first date and you’re pressing to get their social security number? If any date demanded half of what you are suggesting before we even saw if we clicked I’d kick that date to the curve and pronto. It’s a date, not a security clearance check.
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“”Net Worth” checks property and tax records. This is general information that helps you to determine if they are truthful or lying about assets.”"
This entire concept is a violation of privacy…I expect next we will be REQUIRED to submit our credit card numbers and credit rateing to women on comand?
“”Living Situation” finds other people living at the same address. So if he’s one of the majority of married men subscribed to online dating services and he tells you he is single, you can call his bluff.”"
Whoever wrote this obviously dosent know about the hundreds of thousands of women who lie about being single on myspace and facebook, not to mention DATEING sites!What a bunch of BIGOTRY.Women cheat just as much (if not more than)men,they just get CAUGHT less.
On top of all that, there is the financal RISK involved in marrage with a woman these days.The second she desides she no longer loves you, or you just simply upset poor little victim her, she WILL take as much as she CAN..Such an application would only provide such women with more “net worthy” targets to prey apon, thus is more of an endangerment to men than ANYTHING else.Furthermore most men do not lie about these things, and a good deal of the ones that do, would not if the women involved would simply have more REALISTIC expectations of men to begin with.A health portfolio is not implication of a good potential mate, so why is this even equated into there factoring of potential marital prospects?
And then we have this little tid bit…
“”Interests” scans social networks and other references. It’s always a good idea to check the social media sites a person is connected to. If you discover that the person is affiliated with a supremacy organization that likes to sacrifice the occasional chicken, it’s probably a good idea to run. Fast.”"
Wonder if this handy little feature includes feminist scum? They are female supremisists who fight for more rights for women, at the cost of rights for the men.Men more than ever need some protection against there bigotry and sexism, but somehow I bet they wont be included in this along with any other “protected group” now will they?Not to mention my suspision that this bigoted aplication sounds an awfull lot like something a feminist would make up!
Moveing along…This again!
“”Living Situation” finds other people living at the same address. So if he’s one of the majority of married men subscribed to online dating services and he tells you he is single, you can call his bluff.”"
Anyone stupid enough to give you there address on the first date, or even apon meeting you, is probably more than confedint and most likely has NOTHING to hide..Furthermore its unlikely that very many people (man or woman) are going to be that neive to begin with, as to give out there address..its hard enough to give out your phone number for the sake of being stalked (more feminist entrenched dogma) or harassed, this also works for both men and women (even though more women use it as an excuss than men)!
And then this ideotic little addition…
“”Sleaze Detector” gets records of sex offenses and criminal convictions. This is a handy tool to determine if your potential mate is a bad seed. Good information to know and help you make an informed decision. There are a half million registered sex offenders out there. That’s no joke.”"”
First off we already have what is called a “sex ofender registry”, not to mention that most criminal records can be obtained at your local court house…DUH
Secondly what about “sealed” or “expunged” records/charges?There isnt (or should not be)any way to find that information as it is PROTECTED by law.
Lastly, worying about criminal convictions and sex offenses will make you overly parinoid.Sure they ARE real problems, but such a low percentage of people (once again men or women) have been convicted of such crimes, not to mention the resent figures put rape alegations at 60% FALSE to begin with, implying a HIGH likelyhood of WRONGFULL inprisonment for the crime of rape!
Thats all for now!
Well hello Dean from woman hate site - antimisandry.com.
Seriously though, how do you feel it is your right to say a woman (or a man for that matter) should not be allowed to find out what he/she wants to about a date? I say Kudos to IPhone and the creator of this app for coming up with a tool like this. In a day and age when women are getting more rights (albeit slowly) this is something that can keep a woman safe.
You state that the number of people convicted of a criminal act is relatively low? Well if a woman (or again a man for that matter) chooses to find out if there has even been any criminal court actions, or a dv charge, or a rape charge, or if there have been RO’s against someone, they should be able to do so.
It is actually quite ironic that you protest so much. In all of my exposes on the “father’s rights crowd” in which I have a name and location, I have found either severe ongoing hateful litigation in family court, TRO *Restraining Orders* in civil court, and in some cases criminal activity. Or lesss than honest financial dealings. If a man (or woman) is wanting to find Mr./Mrs. Right they do not want someone who has their utilities shut off every other month, or someone who is in foreclosure.
Do you see the point? Someone in these positions (financial, criminal or legal) is BAGGAGE!!!! Why invest time in someone only to be sucked into it? This is why I myself do not date and when I meet someone who actts interested I tell them right from the start about my vindictive ex who constantly has me in court. This way they know, they do not have to go through the time and expense to find out, and they can make an informed decision about whether to continnue to see me.
But I have such a full and busy life, I generally do not date. I like single life. I can go to bed when I want, get up when I want, be on the computer for 8 hours or 1 hour if I want.
I really feel sorry for people like you. What is hiding in your past that this app would discover that you want to keep hidden so badly? That to me would be the only reason to not liek an app like this. I have nothing to hide, so this app does not scare me, nor do I want it discontinued.
“”Seriously though, how do you feel it is your right to say a woman (or a man for that matter) should not be allowed to find out what he/she wants to about a date? I say Kudos to Phone and the creator of this app for coming up with a tool like this. In a day and age when women are getting more rights (albeit slowly) this is something that can keep a woman safe.”"
If you want to know something about someone, by all means ask them, albeit this is not about YOUR right to know the person your getting involved with, it is about the others RIGHT to privacy.What makes you think you should have access to someone else’s financial and PERSONAL information?
“”I really feel sorry for people like you. What is hiding in your past that this app would discover that you want to keep hidden so badly? That to me would be the only reason to not liek an app like this. I have nothing to hide, so this app does not scare me, nor do I want it discontinued.”"
Typical feminist shaming tactic, trying to discredit me by implying I must have some kind of atrocious criminal history, once again while ignoring the POINT.
What about those who want to protect them self from financial predators? Ones who will use this simply to “hunt down” the most financially secure prospects simply to make a buck?What condolence is there for them??
You feel sorry for me, well thats a fine sentament..I as well feel sorry for people like you who live there life in un-justified paranoia, over other peoples past…well quit frankly whether you like it or not, people are entitled to there personal business and “sceletons”…Thats there right.
“”women are getting more rights (albeit slowly) this is something that can keep a woman safe.”"
No this will simply exasperate an already paranoid female majority…Women in America have rights at this very moment that NO ONE has EVER had, such as the ability to have a man forcefully removed from his home and from his children’s lives, as well as his possessions with no more than a phone call..You dont get much more privileged than that now do you?
Women these days could have an armed guard follow them around and they would not feel “safe”, this goes hand in hand with all the feminist dogma they have been fed..Now your trying to convince me that this is the cure?
Sorry Dean does not fly with me. You want a right to keep information about yourself private? Just don’t date. PERIOD
And I must ask do you really have to post everything you write on the internet on antimisandry.com? It is as if you must seek some sort of approval from your fellow woman-haters?
“”Sorry Dean does not fly with me. You want a right to keep information about yourself private? Just don’t date. PERIOD”"
You offer no reasoning or even excuses, no facts, no…Anything…So I can see so long as something has the potential to be of service to you, then you simply ignore the injustice involved!
So for that reason alone, me trying to get a point across to you is pointless isn’t it?
“”And I must ask do you really have to post everything you write on the internet on antimisandry.com? It is as if you must seek some sort of approval from your fellow woman-haters?”"
Why do you post on “glennscult”? Seeking approval from your Fellow “man haters”?
You’ve said just as many (Id even venture to say MORE) sexist comments as I, and in reality making acusational implications about my character, by trying to associate “anti-misandry”(which is anti-man hate since you dont seem to know) as a woman hate site and me along with that ideal, you make yourself out to be nothing more than a hypocrite.I could just as easily play the same cards, so shall we continue with the “tactics” or make with intellectually stimulating conversation?
It is not pointless. If you do not want someone prying into your private life, then keep yourself private. The minute you bring someone else into the situation, you are (or should be) saying my life is now open. And I am NOT being sexist because as I stated above, I feel this should also be able to be used by men as well. I am NOT saying that all women are good and all men are bad. I am however saying that the bad men out there are really bad. Anyone with half a brain who peruses the site antimisandry.com can see that with their own eyes.
As far as my posting on my blog, I do so because the court systems do not listen to victims of abuse. And yes there are male victims of abuse, although they number quite lower than the female and children victims. My website while hastily thrown together and at times difficult to follow is simply an avenue to deal with the frustration of a father sympathetic environment. The cult like atmosphere in many of the mens rights websites is scary. People out there have a right to be informed of some of the sick and delusional ramblings of men like you.
With that said, I believe this is a tool for MEN and WOMEN to use to protect themselves if they feel the need. If I had the tool snad knowledge I possess now - a decade ago - I would not be in the position I am now in. I am a puppet being controlled by a narcissistic freak.
And to clarify a little more about the creation of Glenn’s Cult…..
I was commenting on that website until I was permanently banned. This was allegedly due to the fact that I was not providing a real email address. I was then able to access another computer in order to comment due to attacks on the Collins family by many on this website, and I provided a legitimate working email address and was yet again banned. Could it be because the user name I provided was Glenn’s Cult? Could it be because the owner of this site wants to silence me?
I will NOT be silenced anymore. I was silenced when I was with the abuser, and no other abuser will silence me. So hence the creation of Glenn’s Cult.
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