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]]> By: Ben Leichtling http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1313812 Ben Leichtling Tue, 30 Jun 2009 02:53:23 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1313812 Hi LifeGoesOn, Whether it’s a small town community or a local community in a large city, those face-to-face interactions about what’s important to our school community are critical. And they can help. It’s great that the adults set the standard: “No bullying allowed. Now, how can we work this out in the simplest way?” Best wishes, Ben Hi LifeGoesOn,

Whether it’s a small town community or a local community in a large city, those face-to-face interactions about what’s important to our school community are critical. And they can help. It’s great that the adults set the standard: “No bullying allowed. Now, how can we work this out in the simplest way?”

Best wishes,
Ben

]]> By: Ben Leichtling http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1313810 Ben Leichtling Tue, 30 Jun 2009 02:52:47 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1313810 Hi Linda, I agree about stopping bullies but not about choosing teams. I think the reality check of not being good at something (sports, music, art, etc.) as an individual is a great starting point to learn how to take charge of your emotions. Don’t have hurt feelings because you’re not good at something and everyone knows it. Don’t base your self-esteem on lies or false images or never having failed at something. Instead, go in a different direction; one in which your talents will give you more success. That’s different from not being chosen because of race, religion, etc. Best wishes, Ben Hi Linda,

I agree about stopping bullies but not about choosing teams. I think the reality check of not being good at something (sports, music, art, etc.) as an individual is a great starting point to learn how to take charge of your emotions. Don’t have hurt feelings because you’re not good at something and everyone knows it. Don’t base your self-esteem on lies or false images or never having failed at something.

Instead, go in a different direction; one in which your talents will give you more success. That’s different from not being chosen because of race, religion, etc.

Best wishes,
Ben

]]> By: Ben Leichtling http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1313807 Ben Leichtling Tue, 30 Jun 2009 02:52:28 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1313807 Thanks for the comment Heart. Yes, we need anti-bullying programs. If history is any teacher, we’ll get them when we push hard enough and, unfortunately, after there are enough horrible incidents. Best wishes, Ben Thanks for the comment Heart. Yes, we need anti-bullying programs. If history is any teacher, we’ll get them when we push hard enough and, unfortunately, after there are enough horrible incidents.

Best wishes,
Ben

]]> By: lifegoeson http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1292129 lifegoeson Sun, 14 Jun 2009 01:11:01 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1292129 We live in NH and these programs are also being used at the elementary school level. They are great! We tend to have smaller schools here and these issues can really be discussed with the children at the level they are ready for them. For the younger children the issues are more about positive ideas about respect for yourself, your friends, the school building itself and the larger community. My son was introduced to these ideas in 1st grade and they did community work on a school level that made them feel very empowered and proud of themselves for their positive behavior. In 3rd grade they have begun talking about bullying and I think it was good to wait to talk about these more scary things until the children were older. My oldest child has a form of PDD and I have always worried about him being bullied as he was older. What I found was that this program laid a foundation for him to resolve conflict with his peers. Because the issue was not just his own, other kids were willing to talk with him about what he was feeling. He was having a problem this semester with 1 boy in particular. Just this week they had a talk and have worked their problems out. They have decided to try to like each other and are now talking about summer plans to have some playdates. This is something they facilitated on their own and I am so proud of the both of them! I truly believe it was because of this program that they were able to talk to each other without some much reactionary behavior and accept what each of them had to say about how they were feeling. The boy who was 'bullying' my son told him that he was doing that because he had heard my son say he didn't like him and was putting him on the 'hate list'. My son told him he felt that way because he felt like he was a bully and didn't like being pushed in line, etc. (He's a little sensitive and the first incident could have been an accident that spiraled into other ones) They actually used that language though! So they decided it was making both of them feel bad and they should try to like each other - not be friends - my son was very clear they were not friends - but maybe in the summer could he come to our house for a playdate? We live in NH and these programs are also being used at the elementary school level. They are great! We tend to have smaller schools here and these issues can really be discussed with the children at the level they are ready for them. For the younger children the issues are more about positive ideas about respect for yourself, your friends, the school building itself and the larger community. My son was introduced to these ideas in 1st grade and they did community work on a school level that made them feel very empowered and proud of themselves for their positive behavior. In 3rd grade they have begun talking about bullying and I think it was good to wait to talk about these more scary things until the children were older. My oldest child has a form of PDD and I have always worried about him being bullied as he was older. What I found was that this program laid a foundation for him to resolve conflict with his peers. Because the issue was not just his own, other kids were willing to talk with him about what he was feeling. He was having a problem this semester with 1 boy in particular. Just this week they had a talk and have worked their problems out. They have decided to try to like each other and are now talking about summer plans to have some playdates. This is something they facilitated on their own and I am so proud of the both of them! I truly believe it was because of this program that they were able to talk to each other without some much reactionary behavior and accept what each of them had to say about how they were feeling. The boy who was ‘bullying’ my son told him that he was doing that because he had heard my son say he didn’t like him and was putting him on the ‘hate list’. My son told him he felt that way because he felt like he was a bully and didn’t like being pushed in line, etc. (He’s a little sensitive and the first incident could have been an accident that spiraled into other ones) They actually used that language though! So they decided it was making both of them feel bad and they should try to like each other - not be friends - my son was very clear they were not friends - but maybe in the summer could he come to our house for a playdate?

]]> By: LindaOz http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1291702 LindaOz Sat, 13 Jun 2009 18:34:12 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1291702 I commend any schools who are finally taking on this challenge! I'd like to see them take it a step further and stop actions by teachers and administration that humiliate children and destroy their self esteem such as having the kids choose sports teams. The same two are always left behind and the team that "gets stuck" with them always has to comment about how horrible it is. I'm told this practice still occurs but it really needed to stop 50 years ago. I commend any schools who are finally taking on this challenge!

I’d like to see them take it a step further and stop actions by teachers and administration that humiliate children and destroy their self esteem such as having the kids choose sports teams. The same two are always left behind and the team that “gets stuck” with them always has to comment about how horrible it is. I’m told this practice still occurs but it really needed to stop 50 years ago.

]]> By: heart http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1290467 heart Sat, 13 Jun 2009 03:53:23 +0000 http://www.bloggernews.net/121233#comment-1290467 Thank you Ben for a very fine article. What a worthwhile cause. This HAS to be addressed. Thank you Ben for a very fine article. What a worthwhile cause. This HAS to be addressed.

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