I am talking to people who may still read here, but like me will not join member only forums.

I am trying to find and cross post as much info as possible in order to keep people willing to write letters and send emails to get this resolved.

PLEASE KEEP EMAILING LETTERS DEMANDING A BETTER INVESTIGATION!! All that matters is this child being safe!

The tape was made June9,2008, Connie went to police June 10th, Dustin had the baby from June 10 to June 15. On June 15 Connie went to the hospital and asked for some type of authorization from police and got none so she left. Connie had the baby through the MDIC interview on June 23, and She went to a meeting at the Step program July 1,2008, and custody was changed from shared 50/50 to the 2 supervised visits a week on Jul 3,2008. It has remained that way since.

Connie gets to go back to court on June 1.

Got all this from the Bubba the Love Sponge Aaliyah page and Child Protection Community sites.

There is an open investigation on Dustin Thompson with the APD, although they still haven’t contacted any witnesses of the Bedwell family.

The new judge hasn’t taken custody away from the mother. The new judge upheld the restraining order. Which I believe was so he/she could read up on all the bull crap that the mother has had to deal with for the past 2 years.

Cult, you make me laugh. Weren’t you on the Auburn Journal comment page? You sound sooooooo familiar.

When did an out of county judge take away the mother’s custody?

Connie’s family is now a cult? Since when?

If the case is closed as you say why are there current investigations as has been recently confirmed by people other than the Bedwell family?

P.S.
Lets look at the suggestion that people say placer county officials are corrupt!! does it make sense that a whole county of officials would jeopardize their careers and families well being for the sake of one guy? Sounds pretty far fetch to me!! GROW UP!!!!

Forgive me all for not participating in everyday posting—I am still lurking.

In maybe 1/2% of cases. The 99/98% parental rights are terminated on the fault of the mother due to negligence.

Most of the cases (I’m speaking divorce, custody issues), the child is TAKEN by a court order if they are not to remain with the parents.

Some mothers give up their child because they are selfish, they only care about themself and you’re right, they know they will not be good mothers, that is dead on. Once a mother gives a child up for adoption, she surrenders custody of the child. I was adopted when I was an child, I’m not going there, this is not the issue.This situation has nothting to do with adoption, this is a divorce case where there was a custody issue (divorce) and it was rewared to the father for whatever reason(s).

Most cases, “live in” custody is placed with the mother unless the court has other reasons not to. Even if “live in” custody is placed with the mother, both mother/father still can have “joint” custody. Clearly, Connie Bedwell does not fit this mold. She has no parental rights, no custody and has supervised visitation(s). My gut tells me, she did not give up her child for “unselfish” reasons, otherwise she would not have supervised visitation and she could take Aaliyah for weekend visits to her home.

We don’t know why Connie Bedwell does not have custody of her child and she chooses not to discuss this…….Oh my wild imagination.

Yes, this I agree on. I don’t know if this is hoax or fiction and am unbiased with this but the way people are talking about this father, they have accused them in their hearts due to the “one sided” nature of this. This is not the fault of any blog. The father is charged with a very horrible crime and he only needs to make this plea in court to his innocence or guilt, that’s what matters. In the end, when the media goes to sleep on this it does not matter what you or I think, or Jan an Simon, what will be will be. The fight is between Connie and the father. If this is a false claim filed against the father, Connie will have bigger problems and a new blog begins……If the father is guilty, may he pay dearly.

That’s total BS…..You really don’t believe that? My thoughts….

Yes, we can debate the ethics of using the girl’s name and of the posting of the video and any other actions which have violated her privacy.

But that discussion would be pointless in regards to this particular case because the privacy is gone, for good or for bad, it is gone.

There is no longer an option to give anyone a break. It has all gone too far. There are too many unanswered questions and too many accussations from all sides. There seem to be a lot of motives from every player and even from those not directly involved.

The only possible way forward is for an unbiased third party review the entire case and perhaps all of the legal procedures of Placer County. It looks like this is in the works.

Nite all.

You are ABSOLUTELY right about that. I’d like to add that it may turn out that the Connie is a victim in all this as well, let’s not forget that either.

What’s been put on the internet is done. That can’t be changed. What can be changed, is to bring out the awareness of these types of situations, whether it be a “hoax” or “fact” so that it may be prevented from happening to another family.

You have me confused? Who’s charged as guilty? I haven’t seen anywhere that this is the case. Did I miss something? Some in here agree he’s guilty, some do not, some just plain haven’t made up their mind.

I disagree with your comment that most fathers do not have custody of their kids unless the mother is unfit. This is not the 60, 70, 80’s or even 90’s…..it’s the millenium. Maybe this mother felt she couldn’t be the mother she thought she should be and TRUSTED the dad to take care of the girl? Maybe, this mother loved her daughter and wanted better for her…and THOUGHT she’d get it from him? Maybe she just didn’t want to be a mother at that time. I give more respect to women who DO give their parental custody rights to the dad instead of thinking of their own selfish wants?? I don’t know that ANY of this is the case but, I don’t think it’s fair to speculate as to why the mom doesn’t have custody?? Just some thoughts.

This mother is not just breaking a court order, she’s committing child abuse. She could have done all of this without ever exposing her daughter’s name and face.

Give this poor little girl her privacy!

Great post. The truth is, none of these folks has the full story of anything. In their mind they’d like to believe that but no. This is totaly one sided. It’s charged as guilty. I’m just waiting for the evidence. Listen, the mother does not have custody so she is not pure as the driven snow. Most fathers do not have custody of their children unless, fact be the mother is unsuitable and/or visitation because she may endanger the welfare of her child. She cannot even take Aaliyah for the weekend? People are making character calls on a man,the father they have never even met before. They are hearing “allegations” or a “claim” of child abuse.

The truth may be, this case was looked into hard for people to accept (maybe) and no fault is found but for some folks, we need the constant drama and go in guns blazing.

Either way, if this turns our to be untrue, Aaliyah is still victimized and the father’s image tarnished. If the child is found to be sexually abused, her name is forever written on internet blogs forever in her remembrance and that “daddy’s worm” vid uploaded and downloaded.

My husband’s ex spent years & years slandering him, bringing false accusations to court or just to the court of public opinion. He learned pretty early on that he could waste his child’s entire lifetime defending himself against the accusations -or- he could just use that ‘defending time (and money)’ to get on with parenting as best he could.

He decided to let as much of it slide as possible (doing just as much as was necessary to maintain his joint custody and parenting time) and get on with parenting. Kids don’t wait to grow up - it happens whether the parents (or a parent) are selfish & twisted or not.

On 5/18/09 at 07:49 AM, DocJoeSaturley wrote:
I am a child custody expert in Florida who appears on the nationally syndicated Bubba The Love Sponge Show. I am willing to come to California and conduct a neutral evaluation of this entire situation pro bono.

This child deserves a thorough evaluation of all family members and the situation. The Judge needs eyes and ears from an expert.

Bunny, I was not speaking about you as in being new. I was speaking of people who used to post under certain names and now post under different ones. But as Simon has pointed out, they may be able to change names, but their writing doesn’t. I’m sorry if you thought I was speaking to you. I enjoy the new people that come here to post, I enjoy everyone that posts here as long as they are not accusing and attacking. I understand they think they are asking questions, but it just seems to me they are asking in an accusatory way. I don’t know if that makes sense….but thank you for being here. This little one needs all the help she can get.

m2c, you have been a voice of reason for a while now, thank you for your support as well. I hope we can continue to post about this case with respect and dignity. I for one will not reply to those who are here for trouble. I encourage questions, and I will answer them if I can. But I don’t need to be attacked for knowing the answers.

Thank you to all of you! Anna, I too, hope today will be the day of great and happy news for Aaliyah!

No, the troubles plaguing this blog were not caused by the mother or the father. They were caused by people who cannot debate in a civilized fashion, respect the right of others to have a different opinion, who harrass and harangue and badger when they KNOW the answers are not available yet, when they KNOW that some people are actively searching for the answers, and who DEMAND as if it’s their God-given right to be spoon-fed the information they couldn’t be bothered to find WHEN they want it! No, the troubles on this blog were caused by bloggers themselves NOT the mother or father no matter what’s going on.

I pray Aaliyah will have the peace and security she deserves.

Before I go,,,I feel your hurt and pain for the false accusation. I think it SUCKS. I think there should be consequences for men or women who falsely accuse others of child abuse.

It makes it so much more difficult for those who are being abused get to the front of the line because the system is so backed up with false claims. I do understand.

Goodnight to you too hon.

You are too sweet. Nice breath of fresh air.

I too am calling it a night. Hope to chat with you again soon.

Put me on your list of people who “give a darn”

Hugs & goodnight

I hope people understand my feelings. I posted a while back about my nephew being put in jail for accusations of molesting his step daughter. The child’s father had filed the charges out of revenge. They were later dropped.The pain that this caused this child and our family was unbelievable.
So as I watched the video of this little girl I was initially shocked. But the memories of my nephew having to spend Christmas Day in jail then flooded back to me.

I have foster nieces who have been abused in many different ways.

So please try to understand me. I do recognise that this child is suffering. I just honestly don’t know at whose hands.

I like your handle..LOL. I love the song Somebody to love by Queen. Somebody, somebody, somebody…to love me.

CHSAH: I don’t mind the heat. Sometimes it can make me a little “Sassy” :p Flagstaff is a 2 hour drive. Plenty of snow there in the winter.

I have 3 wonderful grandchildren. My heart aches so much for the pain and suffering that some children endure. I think it is wonderful that we can all be a voice for them.

Phoenix??? awwwwww!!!! I would LOVE the warm weather! lol. I would take the warm/hot over the cold anyday!

Sassy can be a good thing and it seems that you use it in a “good way”…

I guess the hardest part of this whole story is that any ending means a little girl has suffered and that breaks my heart.

LOL, yes. I like Snowhorse Queen. I live in Phoenix where it was 105 degrees today. Seeing your sub title name is like a cool breeze.

I’m not a Sassy person by any means either. Go figure.

I think you are handling everyone with dignity tonight. Good job.

I think with the blog name:

Liarliarpantsonfire

says it all. Don’t you think? LOL, No class, grade school mentality. Something is wrong with people that have to attack others. Makes them think they have purpose.

I pray that this isn’t true. But the flip side seems no better.

Must make you guys feel so tough and powerful!!!!

BNN is not the source of first news.. the money trail BOGUS….soon this will be bogus..

You guys copy and paste other articles and then add some smart *ss humor to it and try to make your own…

name calling is just the tip of the iceberg in this case. One wrong does not make a right which is what you’ve said. I agree. What is wrong is for those that disagree (unrespectfully) about this case come in this blog (willingly) and harrass those of us who wish to know the truth NO MATTER what it is. I have not seen Jan and Simon say anything BUT that from the beginning. Jan and Simon run this blog so they make the rules and can change them as they wish…..just as we ALL do in our own “house”. Not one of us would sit back and let someone treat us with anything other than the respect we deserve in our own home….I don’t expect anything less for Jan and Simon on their blogs. I’m with YOU all the way…….ALL i WANT is to get to the bottom of this!

Simon if I followed the wrong protocol I apologize.

Bunny said…I also looked at the BUBBA METER….

I want one of those! lol.

Sorry to hear about your abuse… but I am so happy to see that you are using it in a very constructive way! Advocating for those that might be “possilby” being abused also! You have my respect! I’ve read your comment several times….worth reading….again…and again….and again! Thank you for sharing.

Really???? hmmmmmm, why did you not email him personally rather than commenting your opinion of his “wrong doing” on the blog…..just curious??? Nevermind…..I really don’t need an answer. This case needs to be solved regardless of your need to “correct” Simon.