All I’ve recollected from this entire story is Aaliyah is DEFINATELY A REAL PERSON. Any person in their right mind can tell from this circulating Youtube video. I just don’t understand how I hear (on the local news almost every month) about Youtube videos being investigated and people actually being confronted and prosecuted.

I’m familiar with a few of them; the babysitter who thought it would be funny to lauch a baby in mid air and post the video on Youtube (he is doing time in prison!) sticks out in my mind…

How is Aaliyah’s case any different??

Simon great article. You say you are not knights in shining armor. I would bet you can’t convince this little girl or her
mother of that.

No man ever stood so tall and when he stooped to help a child.

Thank you Simon

I know that the FBI is now finally getting involved. That’s great news to me!

just go to http://www.saveaaliyah.com. There is also a phone interview with the mother and CPC.

The mother sent a letter to the FBI and she actually spoke to an agent today, face to face.

(KarenCCC) That is GREAT NEWS for sure!

n ramierez, I’m goint to say good night. Welcome to BNN! I’ll be here in the am.

Thank you and goodnight KarrenCCC! I will be a regular until this matter is hopefully resolved!

Any doubters should definitely listen to the mothers interview with CPC.

http://childprotectioncommunity.com/blog.asp?action=details&page=41327&int_blogid=350

Thanks AnneA and KarenCCC for putting up with all the flack when trying to bring this to everyones attention, you are good hearted people and didn’t deserve it.

I do not have personal knowledge about the circumstances surrounding this situation, but have very strong feelings about what I have seen and read. With many others, I have taken action to draw people’s attention to this case. I have done so because I am APPALLED AND OUTRAGED that allegations of abuse(even if they turn out to be false) are not being given adequate consideration and investigation, ONCE AGAIN! There are thousands of children being taken away from their families on false and lesser allegations everyday! The mere fact that abuse of a child is SUSPECTED (whether true or false) warrants thorough investigation. It sickens me that authorities (police, CPS and even judges) pick and choose which they feel is worthy of investigation. ALL children deserve this protection and it is these very authorities who are responsible for doing so. Thousands of children die every year due to the neglectful inaction of the child protection agencies in this country. I know this first hand having lost my own grandchild for this very reason, despite reporting and warning! His mother tortured and murdered him! And although many, many people warned them of what was going on, CPS did NOTHING to prevent his death! Is this precious child, Aaliyah going to be another victim – not just of her abuser, but of this neglectful system? I pray not! God bless you, any and all who will bring this case to attention, hopefully before it is too late. I want to see this child saved, but I also want attention brought to the fact that this is JUST ONE OF THOUSANDS of children who are being failed by a completely inadequate system.
Jesus said anyone who hurts a child would be better of if he had a rock tied around his neck and cast into the sea.

Now THAT would bring attention!!

Someone really needs to help this little girl!If it were a police officer or another important adult who could defend themselves something would have been done already,so we say we love our country, but really:what kind of country are we if we don’t protect our own children but then we go to fight in other countries for other people!Something is really wrong with the system.Where I live about 2 years ago a little 2 year old was screaming and crying and holding her self down below, saying daddy no bite, and guess where she is?The judge gave her right back to her so called daddy! Sickening!!!

KarenCCC – what finally got the FBI’s attention? It’s about time someone in law enforcement outside that county (which by all accounts that I’ve read online is as corrupt as a jurisdiction could be) got involved.

Also, how was the CPC interview arranged?

Sean, thank you for your wonderful posts and information!

sean’s voise @7:54 am..what a horrible loss for you and your family. i hope the mother who did this is in jail on death row?? or at least NO CHANCE OF PAROLE!!!!

Monkey – I wondered the same things as you state in your post. From what I recall reading on this case, the mother was ordered by the court to turn the child over to the father when a new judge was put on the case. The “then” new judge has some sort of family ties to the father’s lawyer – again according to what I’ve read posted. This after a previous judge had restricted his visits or something of that nature.

As far as why nothing was done by authorities or believed of the mother’s allegations – I’ve looked up whatever I could find on this county seat and it is absolutely appalling what appears to go on jurisdictionally in this county – not just as it pertains to this case but a number of others as well. Interestingly enough, this same judge’s name appeared on several of the articles or blogs I was able to google, which by the way were totally unrelated cases and several went back several years.

It’s a mystery to me why this county has not been thoroughly investigated by the justice department.

jan, when i was younger and lived a diffrent lyfestyle i was in a car with a man on the third floor of a parking garage, he tried to assault me it was the middle of the night the police heard my screams all the way down from this 3d floor they did respond but apon seeing me i was the one interrogated, the poliece let this man go (with a ticket) another officer came to my house in the following day’s took pic and stuff…but because of who i was at the time(undesirable citizen)(to them) no charges were ever pressed against this man, even tho the le and my parole officer knew what had happened!! i suppose i find it unimaginable they would not investigat when a child has been asaulted, similar to sandra cantu, the le in that town figured the mother was undesirable so even tho they had doctors saying her child was drugged they failed to investigate, figuring the accused(sunday school teacher) was the better person! could have saved sandra’s life if they hadnt judged someone!!!

in my opinion every case involving a child being abused ao not should be investigated…everycase should be investigated no matter who the persons are(and no matter what they do)!

Monkey Girl!!!(anna), That is so terrible! I am sorry that you and everyone here that has ever been through something so horrifying. You are all so brave.

We all often teach our children of the “stranger danger” but sadly enough, many times it’s not a stranger at all.

My daughter at the age of 10, who is now in her 20s, was very close to being a victim of a child molestor. She came home one day during the summer and I noticed some ink on the inside of her thigh pretty high up – barely peeking out of her shorts which were too short to begin with I might add. I asked her to please not write on her leg like that and to go wash it off. As it turns out, she is not the one that had written on her leg. She told her her friend’s dad had done it. I jerked her up on the counter pulled her shorts up and looked to my dismay at this drawing of what started on the upper inside of her thigh and went all the way up to the beginning of her panty line. Blaring rockets went off inside my head.

I started calmly washing it off and telling her not to let “xxx’s” (not going to use names here) dad ever do this again cause ink is not always easy to get off. I tried to turn the conversation into quizzing her about what prompted this artwork on her leg without alarming her or getting upset in front of her so that she didn’t think she was in trouble.

As the conversation went on, I discovered that this girl’s dad had a little game he would play in the bathroom with not only his daughter but her friends as well. The lights would be off and groping would go on with the game being to identify what you were touching. He would also spend time in the hot tub with these girls. Thank God, I noticed the drawing on her leg when I did.

I immediately called some of the other girls parents who frequented this little girls house. We all individually talked to our girls and then colletively we reported everything we had been told by our daughters to the school principal and counselor. Within days, this father was in jail. He had not made it as far as molesting any of his dauther’s friends at that point, but it turned out he had been molesting his daughter for several years and she told the school counselor everything. This particular man was also a well known businessman and came from a family who owned several businesses in the city where this happened. Her mother also worked at the school all these girls attended.

I honestly do not know how the mother did not know this was going on. I asked my daughter where the mother was when the dad was in the bathroom with her drawing on her leg and she said in the kitchen. Excuse me?

Something very similar happened with my other daughter and it was with the dad of some young children that she babysat for when she was in high school. Thank goodness she had the awareness about her to let her know something wasn’t quite right and she quit babysitting for them. Within a year of that happening he had 3 different charges of child molestation against him and is now serving two 20 year consective sentences.

I’m unsure whether or not this is more rampant than it used to be years ago or if it is just being confronted and not swept under the carpet.

I feel that many people have either themself been victims or personally know someone and this has touched so much of us that the more people that speak up, the more incidences we all hear about.

Sad, but true.

Talina, that story is so horrible. I am so happy that nothing happened to your daughter. I just can’t imagine all this…..it’s just so wrong!

Val, you are so correct. Women and children are not safe…..

In the mother’s blog, if I’m correct she mentioned the ped threatening to kill her and the young girl if she “doesn’t back off”. My biggest fear is this man snapping…the pressure is on surely. It’s very obvious how inconspicuous the mother is trying to be with the GAG on her back…yet still trying to maneuver her way around it with the help of her sister (Cara I believe), boyfriend and father…and now a wide variety of worried people across the US made aware by internet…

I just feel that this is going to be big in a short time…and I hope that as well because if it’s too prolonged…the last thing we need is this ped reacting and “shutting everyone up”….

Ontop of contacting officials…I am also spreading awareness through e-mail, myspace and the website Cafemom.com … what else can one do to help?

Thank you Denise! And welcome to BNN.

I am Cara Bedwell, Aaliyah’s Aunt (the one in the video). There is so much to say and I don’t even know where to start. I worked in the afternoon at the time and Connie worked in the evening so a few nights during the week I would watch Aaliyah make her dinner, give her a bath and put her to bed. The Pedophile had visitation with Aali and would take her for 1 to 4 hours and bring her home. Aaliyah had grown to have a relationship with him throughout his supervised visitation. Approximately May of 2007 he had knocked on the door and she ran away, so I picked her up and opened the door. I handed him the baby bag and she was crying, as I tried to hand her over to him she was screaming, digging her nails into me, fighting to get away from him and was holding on for dear life! I looked at the pedophile and every ounce in my body was telling me not to give her to him because she had never acted that way before! He grabbed her from my arms and left.
Almost everytime he had come to pick her up after that time she has screamed, dug her nails into us, pulled out her eyelashes while crying and running away to not have to go to him. Most of the time she wouldn’t even look at him. We even have some of these exchanges on video.
A little over a month later I was giving Aaliyah a bath one night and found three bruises on her. That was the first out of 11 cps reports.
From that moment, up to the time they took my niece away from my sister, Aaliyah has done and said all that i am about to tell you.
* Multiple times she has stated daddy and grandpa give her owies and hit her. She has stated where they hit her, and how they are always mad and angry.
* Aaliyah has put a pillow over my lap, sat next to me and put pillow over her lap and said, “We need to be safe from daddy.”
* She has told me multiple times her dolls and stuffed animals are crying, scared, bad and dead. Her whole world revolves around being safe.
* She no longer wanted to use her potty after we had already gotten her out of diapers even to this day she is in diapers from his abuse towards her.
* Aali stated multiple times daddy hurts her pee pee and her butt hurts.
* She has horrific nightmares that last all night long sometimes. She screams and doesn’t want the light off or even want to sleep in a bed. She uses a flashlight to protect her in the dark and would tell us it is safe with the lights on.
* She constantly would cry and say she didn’t want to go to daddys house and that he was bad, mad and hits her. She would come home brainwashed thinking he was a parrot and spoke of grandpa how had two split personalities that she called grandpa and papi.
* When we got Aali back from his house she never wanted her pants changed or her clothes taken off for her bath. She had never use to do that. She use to love bath time!
* She came home with a bruise on her lower back and forehead. She explained to me twice how daddy kicked her and she acted out how she flew and bonked her head on the table!
* She is scared of men because of the abuse.
* When she falls down she starts crying and runs and hides like she’s in trouble or like someone did it to her.
* She has been afraid of worms because of the abuse we just didnt understand why until later when she made disclosures about daddy’s one eyed hairy worm.
* She has told us to kiss her baby with our tongue. She would lick us when she would come home from him.
* She would tell us how daddy hits her and he had to hit her but she is not supposed to tell mommy but she is supposed to tell grandma.
*She has told us that grandma doesnt love her anymore because she watches grandpa(the mean personality) hit her and she doesnt help her. She has explained that after he hits her grandma cries and says sorry to her. She has mentioned her little cousin cries also.
* I’m sure most of you have watched the “Worm”
video. That should say enough in itself. There have been numerous times of her complaining how daddy’s worm hurts her tongue. She has said he doesnt like her boobies because their too small. She has tried to stick objects up her vagina. She would state gross in pee pee and daddy hurts her under her poo bear diaper.

There is so much more I can’t even begin to explain…it has been going on for two years now this May. There is so much intricate detail to this situation and the authorities dont seem to care to even talk to a single person who has witnessed all of Aaliyah’s behavior, bruises and statements. Aaliyah was never coached, she would be telling us right out of his arms and in the car on the way home from the exchanges.

That video is just a speck of what Aaliyah has said. I have seen the changes in her character from never wanting to go to the pedophiles and now she is now stuck with him. Connie has every right as a mother to protect her child when her baby is saying and doing these things! I have seen so much and have been disgusted with this so called “justice system” not stepping in to help or talk to anyone who has seen my niece’s cry for help and instead giving my niece to an alcoholic who has a long history of abuse. He used to be on supervised visitation for his alcohol abuse and abuse towards Connie and abuse towards Aaliyah when she was 4 weeks old. He even has a previous criminal record. Connie is a great mother and puts Aali’s needs before her own and will stand up for the truth no matter what.

It is heartbreaking that she is 3 yrs. old and has to go through more trials than most people do in a lifetime!
I want to thank everyone who has been supportive and has helped spread aaliyahs story to try to bring my sweet little niece justice. Please continue to pray for her safety! Thank you both for taking the time to investigate and give us witnesses a chance to be heard for Aaliyah’s sake.

– Cara Bedwell

And Darrel is my sisters boyfriend. The pedophile started abusing Aaliyah because he found out through stalking my sister at our apartment that she began dating someone else. Abusers think their victims are their possessions. In the pedophiles mind Connie and Aaliyah are his property that he thinks he can do whatever he wants with and that they are his to control. Aaliyah is all he has left of Connie to use to try to control her. I actually believe in his sick mind he is molesting Aaliyah because he thinks in his own twisted way he is having a sexual relationship with Connie. He is obsessed with her. He told her when she was pregnant that he hoped she would get stretch marks all over her entire body so that nobody would ever want her again. The pedophile is like another Scott Peterson that charms the heck out of everyone. He threatened to kill Connie while she was pregnant with Aaliyah. This guy is a complete utter sicko. Most of the outrageous lies started around the internet are straight from the peds mouth. He is an extremely skilled liar and has managed to fool people that he isnt abusing her even when her bruises were right in their face. He has managed to talk his way out of the worm video. When she came home with the bruises the first time that were in the shape of a hand grabbing her and a larger bruise across her thigh and hip were so obvious as to how she would have got them. The bruises from when he kicked her in the back were obvious there were two opposite forces hitting her. She had one bruise across her back that she complained about for almost two weeks. We thought he had broke her tail bone because she kept grabbing it saying it was hurting. He wants to talk like we just had her x rayed for no reason. You cant get your child x rayed unless a doctor does a referral which Aaliyah’s pediatrician did luckily she didnt have any broken bones. He is sick, sick, sick, and he is good at keeping it behind closed doors. After everything he has done I hope the truth is exposed to a point he cant deny the facts and play off of all of the “professionals” here in Placer County that dont have the brains to keep up with the games of pedophile.

I would like to thank Cara and Denise for standing up for Aaliyah and Connie. Cara, Simon and I would like to talk to by phone if that would be OK with you. If you could email me at jannyo@gmail.com and let me know when a convenient time to call you tomorrow if possible. I would appreciate it. God bless you all. My prayers will be with Aaliyah and Connie.

Here is Connie’s boyfriend Darrel’s signature off the petition…

# 412:May 2, 2009, Darrel Payne, California
In response to #165– As you said there are parts of the story that the mother has not shared… First off- how she had to move to Alaska with her family a few weeks after her daughter was born because the father abused the mother WHILE she was holding their newborn baby- or how he pulled a baseball bat out on her and would not let her leave with her baby. She also forgot to mention that she tried to let the father have a “normal” relationship with his daughter- but when the daughter started returning from him with bruises on her arms and legs she became worried. Or when suddenly the daughter would start screaming and run away from him the instant she saw him or heard his voice, how she would pull her eyelashes out screaming while digging her nails into her mothers back holding on with every ounce of strength she had to not go with him. She forgot to mention how her daughter would NEVER look him, or her grandpa in the eyes when they exchanged custody, she would always look at her mom or stare at anything but him. She never mentioned how his attorney is married to one of the two family law judges in the county that is hearing the case- that his attorney knows everyone in the county and is friends with them and they have never once looked at the evidence before making a judgement against her. She must have forgot to state how many times her daughter BEGGED and PLEADED not to go to his house, how she would always ask me to go to my house instead of his! She also forgot to mention how her daughter was seeing a psychologist for play therapy after you-oops I mean him- started molesting his daughter- and that the psychologist said that there was definitely abuse going on with the father. It’s a plain out lie on your part about what the professionals said about her… Im sure you have read the psych report as well as I have, and NOWHERE in it does it ever say she is diagnosed as narcissistic, delusional, and borderline schizophrenic– but it does say that she is in the top third of intelligence in the nation, and COMPLETELY FIT TO BE A MOTHER. For you to twist and lie about that is completely dishonest- but what would we expect from someone who is “friends” (I say friends because I’m sure that this is not the sick father himself writing the comment…) with someone who thinks its ok to abuse women and molest children, especially their own child! Why would you spend so much time writing this comment trying to make her look bad- but spend only one quick second saying anything about the video? Is it that the fact a two year old who says her daddy puts him worm in her mouth and it makes her cough… and it tastes yucky, and he HAS TO WIPE IT OFF WITH LIKE A NAPKIN!!! SOUNDS LIKE YOU KNOW THERE IS NO WAY TO FIGHT THAT IN COURT AND YOU ARE GOING TO DO ANYTHING YOU CAN TO KEEP THAT VIDEO OUT OF COURT! Anybody with half a brain can CLEARLY see what this sweet little girl is talking about- it’s funny that you can offer no excuses for it! Im sure that your comment is out of desperation, trying to get anyone on your side- but you are realizing people are not blind and the truth will come out eventually and you will get what you deserve… I am not scared to use my real name as I know I have seen the truth and am speaking the truth- as I have been dating the mother for over two years and have witnessed everything the daughter has told us, and I have witnessed how AMAZING of a mother she has been, and how your daughter completely changed attitudes towards you about the time the bruises started showing up… Ohhh and I looked up the name Ann Cloter from texas- she died a few years ago- thats pretty low to use a dead woman’s name…

When APD sees all of our testimonies then maybe they will realize they all need new jobs because they dont have a clue how to
I N V E S T I G A T E!!!!

There has been a group of us trying to contact anyone we know to get her case brought into the public. if you go to saveaailyah.com you can find more info on what is being done now and hear the mothers accounts through other links.

7:54 SEAN’S VOICE

I have been crying here, looking at that beautiful, beautiful child, your Grandson Sean.

WHERE IS HIS MURDERER – in JAIL? I HOPE “IT” IS! I hope Sean’s sister is far away from her – forever! I saw her picture in the background … disgusting creature.

Prayers are coming to you and yours, and your baby from the Pacific West Coast.

I am so glad you found us .. WELCOME! Simon and Jan are sooo wonderful! WE are all lucky to have found them, and blessed to have them in our lives. All Angel’s don’t have wings … …

I am so sad I can’t even think right now.

Simon and Jan have a radio show on Sundays. In fact, you can hear last week’s show ( Was GREAT!) because it’s in the “can”. Do tune in, and call in if you want.

We will all continue working here for the babies.
I was told to take it easy now … was in the Hospital 2 weeks ago. Tests still going on – outpatient basis, so far.

Peace with with you … Little Sean will not suffer, ever again!

Heart <3

Here is the link to the story Simon had on the other article…about the judicial system in Placer County:

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/43819/placer_county_judicial_system.html?cat=17

I just wrote to the lawyer that is going after octomom…..

Talina, yes there is. The pedophile is trying to extend the restraining order against her.

Blues, that is what I am told. I hope so too. Especially this judge. She resided over the first case and put a restraining order on the ped! So, I am praying….

Talina, I went back through my emails, because I thought there was an expliation for that. But I couldn’t find anything. I don’t know.

Teresa, that’s exactly the case I was speaking about that made me jump on this Aaliyah one! She actually wasn’t slammed to the floor, what Mike Porter did was punch her in the stomach when she started screaming for her mother while he was sexually abusing her. Sick!

Do you have an update on the court appearance that was scheduled for today?

I keep on forgetting, too, that they are three hours behind me. So, they are still in court now.

Cara and family,
I have posted your information from your post on our message forum for Aaliyah on brokenchild.org. We are the sister site to Kelsey’s Purpose, named for Kelsey Briggs (mentioned above). Our members are praying for you and will do whatever it takes to help ensure Aaliyah’s safety. You are in our prayers.

Thanks Jan and Simon, please keep us informed. I have been reading the blog for a few days now, finally getting a chance to post Thanks to KarenCCC who pointed this case out to me on May 1, and the Child Protection Community who reinforced the call to action!

[…] Aaliyah Bedwell is a three year old girl who lives about 40 miles from Sacramento, California. There is convincing evidence that she has been sexually abused by her father. Jan and I have talked at length with people who know this child, and there is no doubt in my mind that there are grounds for some real concern for this girls safety. Rather than investigating the claims local law enforcement and the courts have totally ignored the allegations, in fact they have given full custody to the accused man. […]

I hope something happens to save that little girl, I’m following this story

Thank you for your kind words.

I have added Aaliyah’s name to a group that prays at noon and midnight every day. I can understand the frustration, and the need to be heard. I have been through problems with small town court systems, and I can truly understand what a battle it is to keep trying when the deck seems stacked and none of what is going on makes sense.

There is no pain greater than the fear your child (any child)is suffering, and no gift greater than a child. There is always hope, and I have read that your family is held together with love and faith.

We will all keep pushing for justice, and help for you and your sister and your beautiful niece. There is nothing more I can think of to do besides pray and write letters. I have asked everyone I know to do the same.

Know that you are not alone in this fight for Aaliyah. Blessings to you and your family in these trying times.

Everyone has a right to give their opinion on this site. If you don’t like it then don’t read them!

I-Call-it-like-it-is:

You need to read some of the other posts here on other articles on this subject.

This person Carol Smith is actually trying to GET a lawyer to represent the mother in this case. A pro-bono lawyer that will not cost this mother anything!!

Not everyone who posts something you do not like is related to the father’s side. Attacking posts
made will not help this mother get the help she needs. Focus on the ways to help this beautiful child, get the facts out there, tell people about it, tell people how to help.

Asking questions, or making suggestions do not equate to being part of the problem or being pedophile supporters. Some people are trying to help and are being attacked for it, tends to make them stop wanting to help. If having the money go into a trust fund will make more people comfortable and willing to donate- would this not be a good thing? Trust funds are very common in the banking world as a place to receive public donations. The bank can help the family set this up. There is no charge for this service that I have ever run into for this.

I believe this child is what is important, and these types of negative comments are not keeping the focus where it needs to be.

WE NEED TO FIND WAYS TO HELP THIS CHILD!

Confused, have you gone to http://www.saveaaliyah.com? If you haven’t, go there and read the “about us” part of the site. Also, there is an interview with the mother and CPC right under the video. All I can answer is that the baby was taken away from the mom because she was making sexual abuse allegations, the court would not take her evidence into account. They say that CPS was involved 11 times (at least) and at times said that the bruises weren’t visible enough to determine what happened, even though the baby said what had happened. But, if you read the site, “about us”, maybe some of your questions will be answered….or maybe someone else can be more of help?

KarenCCC-I have been to the website which is how I found this site. And I know once I saw this I will be blackballed but….in regards to bruises (and once again this is where I work in another state) they have to cause SEVERE pain, injury or impairment regardless of how it happened for us to step in. For instance, a kid has a bruise on his arm and says that his dad grabbed him. Dad admits to grabbing the child because he wasn’t listening. Child denies pain, injury or impairment of his arm. We cannot keep that child from his father.

That is just an example. Like I said before, obviously I do not know what CPS has or has not done. I do not know what this child has or has not said. I do find it hard to believe though that a judge would just be like “oh mom you’re crazy for thinking your child is being sexually abused” because those are serious allegations whether they are true or not. But I’m in a different state and cannot speak for who this judge is because he/she could very well be a wacko

Confused, I am sorry, but your policies SUCK! I have read so many abuse stories in the last three months to make me freaking vomit! The policies need to change! I have been told that people such as you are underpaid, overworked and sometimes just so jaded that things slip through the cracks. When I saw this video, I said to myself, “I am NOT going to let this baby be murdered and then hear the freaking crap that comes out of CPS after they fail her.” I have one question, why after 11 times they did not take the baby out of the house and do an investigation? Why is it that the baby has to be put in a hospital before it is recognized as abuse? I can’t sit here and listen to this…..these policies need to be changed.

The judge that told her that she was crazy is the husband of the “father’s” attorney….can you understand it now?

KarenCCC-trust me I know the system blows. I deal with it everyday. And like I said before, I do not know what the policies/regulations, etc are for the state that these people live in. There regs/laws may be different then ours. I was just trying to offer what little help I thought I could.

The CPS that I work at has had numerous reports of families as well and nothing can be done because our hands are tied unfortunately by the laws. It’s just the unfortunate part of the job.

It’s awful that I try to offer some advice/suggestions and get bitched at for it. I’m just stating what could be taken from any side. When you try to collect evidence you need to be cautious about how you do so. That’s the bottom line.

I’ll stop trying to offer advice since obviously it’s not getting through to some people that I do this for a living and may be able to offer some advice on how to handle the situation.

And if that judge was the father of the father’s attorney…..isn’t that a conflict of interest? IT should have been taken to someone else immediately no questions asked.

But hey, what do I know right KarenCCC?

Sorry about my post appearing to be angry with you as well. It’s just very hard for us CPS workers to hear the agencies getting slammed in the mud for everything because we do do as much as we can and we are not allowed to defend ourselves to the media.

Confused, please don’t do that….I am just angry at the policies. I apologized for getting angry with you…I know you didn’t put those policies in place. I am just so mad and sad for these children. I feel so helpless. That’s it, really, please don’t stop posting.
And I never said you were wrong about anything. Again, please accept my apology.

The laws and structure you have to work with are not easily changed.

Cases like this and information from people who do the job help raise awareness.

It must be incredibly difficult to work at CPS. Your compassion has to be held in check when the laws do not work.

It is the laws and the system that need to be changed.

Confused, thank you for accepting my apology. And you do not owe me an apology at all…I would have reacted exactly as you did. I really am sorry. As I said, I just feel so helpless.

Confused, I was just talking to my 17 year old daughter about college. She doesn’t know what she wants to do with her life. She is going to go for her core classes first and then hopefully decide what will be best for her. I told her that I wished so much that I had the internet back when I got out of H.S. I knew child abuse existed, but not this bad. I feel so helpless and wish that I had chosen your profession. Really, I am just angry about it all. Some of these parents, as you know, don’t even do any time for killing their child. It’s just so frustrating. I don’t watch the news because of this stuff. I came across Caylee’s story by accident and kind of wish I hadn’t. It got me on the internet and finding story after story like Aaliyah’s. I just wish it would all stop. But all the wishing and praying I do won’t stop it. And I am just so very sad. I am ashamed at how I spoke to you. Really, I am sorry.

My apologies for taking so long to write this letter about Connie and Aaliyah- as I have been without cell service and internet for a few days now. I have been in a relationship with Connie for over two years now- and have seen everything that has happened in the case. When Connie and I started dating, the pedophile would show up at her apartment to pick Aaliyah up for visitation, and I would remain in the other room as not to upset him by letting him see me with her. At that time Aaliyah was happy to see her dad, she would go to him, leave, and return happy from her time with him. Soon after he met me, and realized Connie was not his anymore- Aaliyah’s attitude changed quickly. She started to run from him, screaming and crying when she saw him, then she started to pull her eyelashes out, and dig her nails in Connie’s back fighting for her life to NOT go with him. She soon changed emotionally, she started to become scared of male figures, regressed in potty training, stopped sleeping in her bed and would crawl to the floor- and several times would wake up with horrible nightmares screaming at the top of her lungs scared. Around this time she came home and Cara (Connie’s sister) found bruises on her arm and leg that were OBVIOUSLY from a hand grabbing her arm- but in CPS’s eyes they were not visible enough to be proof- they were clearly visible, but just not enough for them. Aaliyah started telling us in her limited vocabulary daddy owies, daddy hurts, grandpa owies, she stated she didn’t like grandpa anymore, and she would constantly say she did not want to go to daddy’s. At exchanges (the court ordered to be in the In’n Out parking lot at the time) Aaliyah would cry the minute he stepped out of his car, she would NOT look at him or his father when they took her, and she would always hold onto Connie for life and ask to stay with her- and it was heartbreaking having to hand her over to him knowing what we knew. She came home from one visitation with him and had a LARGE bruise on her lower back, upper butt area that was yellowing (showing it had happened at the beginning of his one week visitation) that was the size of her back. She also had a contusion on her forehead, and after asking her how it happened she explained VERY CLEARLY she was kicked in the back and bumped her head on a huge table. I had phoned CPS and made a complaint with them about him- and where did it go- nowhere. They said thanks and hung up and I never heard from them again. They never investigated and never further looked into the claim.
Connie had given numerous items of evidence to auburn police department- and they did a horrendous job investigating. There sexual abuse investigator had recently quit and moved to another city- so they handed it to a normal investigator who failed to protect Aaliyah like he should have. Over FIVE MONTHS I waited to be contacted by him as I was on the top of his list of witnesses- finally I got sick of it and called him. He immediately gave me attitude and told me there was nothing I knew he needed to know. That’s where i proved him wrong- I told him stuff that if he had done anypart of his job, he would have known for himself- I asked him if he knew that the two people who were standing up for the pedophile and saying Connie taught Aaliyah to say these things were both under investigations from local law enforcements for several things. I asked if he knew they had restraining orders against them and that they could not legally see Connie OR AALIYAH- and for them to say he’s a great dad was a lie. I showed him the evidence where they left me a voicemail saying they would kill Connie, and make sure she would never see her baby again if she went to the police for the forgery they committed against her. He had no idea of this-he also admitted he had not looked at the evidence, and had not called ANYONE on her witness list, he did not even know he had one! He admitted he never even bothered to watch the worm video or the other videos Connnie had given him. How thorough of an investigation can be done without looking at the evidence or contacting people???
I have personally had Aaliyah tell me about daddy’s worm- how it’s hairy and has one eye, how it goes in her mouth and how it’s yucky and it makes her cough- at the same time she was begging me to go to my house, and to NOT GO WITH HIM- she told me she does not like it there, and several times she would get sad and depressed when we told her she is going with him, and we would try and tell her cheerfully to not make her feel worse, but she knew in her heart as well as we did why she was scared to go to his house.
Numerous times when Aaliyah would return home from visitation she would just fall limp on Connie, as if it took every ounce of her strength to spend a week with him- she still does this today in visitation, she will just sit on Connie and cry, and hold on for life when it is time to go back with him. Numerous times she would never want to sleep the night she came home from his house, she would always wake up and start screaming for her mommy- and she would not sleep in her bed anymore, to her it was not safe. When Connie would get Aaliyah back for her week of custody- for the first two or three days, Connie could not go in the other room without Aaliyah getting scared that she was gone. She would follow Connie EVERYWHERE- she was attached to her nonstop until she would finally feel that Connie was not going to leave her side, that she was there to protect her- but then the whole process would start again and the following week Aaliyah would be just as paranoid if her mom was not in eye sight.
I have known Aaliyah for over two years- and it took a while for her to get comfortable with me- but by the time the pedophile gained full-custody her and I were VERY close. I love her as my own- and I KNOW she loves me also- she was very comfortable telling me, just as with her mother all of the sickening things he is doing to her- but NOONE in the placer county court system understands a 2 1/2 year old has limited vocabulary- they dont understand how to explain male genitalia, or how he abuses her, so she does what she can- but for placer county, she does not say enough. What is it going to take for these people to see the truth? If Aaliyah being molested for years and abused in other ways by him and his family is not enough, what is? If worse happens as we hope and pray it does not- may the blood of what happens fall on their hands and I hope they must pay for their ignorance and for their ability to turn there heads on an innocent child when proof is in front of them.
WE ALL MISS YOU AALIYAH AND PRAY FOR YOUR SAFE RETURN SO WE CAN KEEP YOU SAFE AND PROTECT YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

Thank you Darrel

In regards to the link that was posted regarding the court system, I personally knew both parties in one of the families that they are refering to. What they reported in not true. The mother was a really good mother, her girls were the most important thing to her. The fathers actions towards the girls were questionable and the mother was afraid of what the father was going to do to them and had some evidence of what had already been done. He would yell & threaten her in public. It is very sad that he took his life but that can not be blamed on the placer county courts. He wasn’t a stable person. These other stories may be true, I don’t know. What county doesn’t have complaints? I’m sure that most, if not all do!

It breaks my heart to read that some people or agents would question molestation on a child. We have to listen to our children. When I was about 9 some one in my family tried to rape me. It was christmass eve and every one was getting ready for the party. So every one left and left me and my sister which was 4 years old at the time. This person was well trusted by everyone even my mother they grew up together in the same town. He started pulling me on to the bed touching me and grabbing me. I was screaming but no one heard me except my sister, she was yelling, let her go, she’s not your girlfriend. I got the strength to push him so hard that he fell. I grabbed my sister got her coat because it was winter and I didn’t want her to get sick but I left mine. I ran to my mother she was styling her hair I couldn’t talk I was so scared it took about 20 minutes before they all calmed me down. Then I told them what happened and no one believed me, even my sister at age 4 said he did it. I was astonished I couldn’t believe no one did nothing. When his mother died I was 22 and she asked me at her death bed if what I said was true? I said yes it
did happen. Now I’m an adult but that changed me for ever. I did not trust no one with my children at all. Locks were on there doors, so no one could sneak in, baby monitors, so I could hear everything. I will always listen and look for signs of molestation for all our children. Because there closer than we think.

Alice

He was a well respected man. Uncle of my half sister. The whole family knew him as a good man. But I guess he had a dark side. I know that his wife left him I guess she believed what happened and did not want to take any chances with her children. As to why I still don’t know I asked my mom when I was grown but she just says they’re could have been a lot of problems. I don’t understand it. But I never confided in no one after that. But I look for signs, and most important I listen and have helped those that need it. I really don’t care who they are fathers, uncles, friends. I listen to the children. If I help one or two I’m happy. My daughter told me of one that her father was molesting her, and reported him and he got his. Unfortunately the mother did not believe so I helped till this day she thanks me.

Thank you
God Bless
Alice