I am a survivor of childhood abuse which spiraled into a long term relationship with a man who introduced me to a life filled with domestic violence, and unfortunately I also became a non-offending mother of a sexually abused child. I am developing two books. Originally I had planned to produce one; however circumstances have lead me to do a second. “Shadows of Silence: Book 1” gives readers a front row seat to what transpired in my life. The second is an anthology e-book, with entries from male and female survivors from many age groups, from most walks of life, and from many parts of the world. These entries are from came from both male and female survivors, from most age brackets, from all walks of life and from many parts of the world. I am so pleased to be able to include personal experiences from survivors of most types of abuse.

When my daughter disclosed her abuse we lived in a small town that offered next to no resources catering to my needs. Hunting for the help I needed overwhelmed me, and multiplied to the frustration and the existing pain. Those times inspired me to create my books. I don’t know about you but, one of the things that help me to survive the rough periods is to read what others have endured and how they conquered their experience.

My quest is three-fold:

1) To offer support to fellow abuse survivors

2) To educate those who have not been subjected to these appalling issues

3) To generate awareness about who is offering prevention, education, and support

This brings me to the reason for this email. I am contacting you due to your connection to abuse, domestic violence or an issue that is associated to these crimes. I want to invite you to take part in my upcoming book. I am advocating for survivors of all types of abuse to add their testimony which can be done anonymously or by using a first name. I am providing a platform to authors to promote their book, blog and/or their activities. And I am inviting organizations to introduce themselves to those who may not be aware of their existence. If you happen to be an author or an origination, please keep in mind that while many may be aware of you, you can count on as many who do not. I am hoping you will take advantage of my offer. You have nothing to lose but you may gain more awareness about your valuable cause. I cannot speak for others but personally, I am taking every opportunity presented to me to get the word out about what I am doing.

There are a tremendous amount of wonderful and valuable resources available; however the key is making others aware of them. It fascinates me to learn the personal struggles and experiences behind those offering resources. All too often it is who have encountered hardships that offer others the hope, encouragement, and strength to go on.

As a sign of my appreciation for being a part of my e-book, you will receive a copy of the e-book “Shadows of Silence: Book 2″ naturally free of charge (there is no selling price for this e-book) As well you will have the opportunity to purchase one soft cover copy of my first book at a 50% discount, which will include shipping and handling charges.

Once I am published I will be presenting something that is rather unique gift. Most authors sell their book alone with nothing extra. The purchase price for my own book, Book One, will not exceed $20.00 and I am giving the second e-book to those who purchase it. The second book will contain no less than 500 entries and no more than 1000. I am able to give it because I am paying a one -time fee for the temp plates.

What follows is a link that will allow you to read a portion of my testimony and to access other articles that I have authored so that you can learn my writing style. If you feel it might be unsafe to visit an unfamiliar site, please let me know so that I can send you the information in the body of an email.

Here is one of my links http://sherry123456789.xanga.com/

I want to thank you in advance for caring enough to check out what I am doing. I really hope you will join me in my efforts to spread awareness about an issue that affects more than half of this world. If you could pass my information along to others I would greatly appreciate it. If you are interested in adding your voice or if you have additional questions please do not hesitate to contact me.

In closing, I am sharing a very exhilarating piece of news that I received a few days ago which absolutely thrills me. In fact, to be honest, I have not felt more excited about an opportunity in a long time. I received a letter from a News And Political Reporter Examiner.com who is also a Community Reporter, FOX 6 BLOCKS & Midwest Bureau Chief & News Anchor. He has made a very generous offer to help me promote my books by placing a link onto his site. This holds great promise of gaining worldwide exposure of my books.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Respectfully,

Sherry Clyburn

It’s fun, it’s cathartic and it can be very lucrative if they are carrying cash.

If they still diss you, or want to, that just means they’re sad, pathetic people that never grew up. They probably now feel obsolete since they’re no longer in school, and long past their glory days of “ruling” their classmates. It says much more about them than it ever will about you.

Thanks for the post. I hadn’t seen this.

This is like meeting your ex at a party, except you can’t read the non-verbal clues online. It’s a chance for you to see how far you’ve come and what you still need to work on. It’s about you getting past your past and taking charge of creating a joyous and bully-free inner world so you can also create one in your outer world.

There are no rules or best ways that you should be with them. You have free rein.
* If they don’t apologize, or if they pretend that nothing bad happened, or if they try to justify what they did by saying that it was your fault or the fault of people victimizing them, cut off contact immediately. You’re not their therapist. Let them deal with their own stuff. If they pursue you like the person in the first paragraph of your post who took no responsibility, do whatever you have to in order to stop them.
* If you don’t want any contact, even if they want to apologize, don’t have any. Their need to apologize is their problem. Or you can accept their apology graciously and say that you still don’t want to have any contact.
* Your job is not to “forgive,” as most people use the word. Your job is to make the past so small that it doesn’t get in the way of your present and future. That means that you rarely think about the old incidents and when you do, they’re distant and faint. You don’t get any emotional charge from the memory. Of course, when they try to come back into your life, you’ll remember. Do you want to open up that old wound?
* If you want to have continued contact, open up stepwise and cautiously. It’s fine to say that you don’t trust someone. As a metaphor, see if they’re trustworthy with a quarter, then a dollar, then five dollars before you open up more.

I think you’ve asked the right question; “Why on earth do you want to be with those people again?” Add new and better people, without baggage, to your present and future.

As I show in my books and CDs of case studies, “How to Stop Bullies in their Tracks” and “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids,” bullies are not all the same, but their patterns of behavior, their tactics, are the same. That’s why we can find ways to stop most of them.

If we don’t stop bullies, they’ll think we’re easy prey. Like sharks, they’ll just go after us more.

Disclosure: In addition to having six children, I’m a practical, pragmatic coach and consultant. Check out my website and blog at BulliesBeGone (http://www.BulliesBeGone.com).

Best wishes,
Ben