tiny-toes-cover.jpgThree seemingly disconnected problems infertility, prematurity of birth, and depression are in fact closely related. There is clear scientific proof that the use of the various techniques to resolve infertility do increase the chances of a multiple birth situation, which in turn leads to an increased risk of a premature birth. Infertility also can link closely to depression, depression caused by a feeling of inadequacy, of not being like other couples.

I was a little skeptical when I first picked up this book, I am a 50 something male, I have two grown children, infertility was not an issue in my marriage, both children appeared on time, and in a natural fashion, and depression was limited to sulking about having to take the trash out, and being told to cut the grass!

It did not take many pages to realize that this book was not really a ‘self help’ book, though certainly much of the information could help in certain situations, it is more of biographical adventure through several years of Kelly Damron’s life. She was a young happily married lady, living a life that was pretty much idyllic, a promising career, a loving husband, what more could one ask for? Trouble though was waiting just around the corner. That trouble came in the form of wishing to start a family.

Kelly watched in despair as one by one her friends became pregnant, yet she herself remained without child. While it was not her intention, we watch as Kelly gradually moves into appointing blame, is it her, or is it husband Dave? Clearly this question can only be answered by medical intervention, but knowing the answer, may be worse than not knowing the answer.

Dave probably is like many men, who prefers to just take a wait and see approach, the ‘if it is meant to be, it will happen’. This obviously does little to improve marital relations. Eventually though, against his judgment he agrees to participate in medical testing.

To cut to the chase, the best chance that the couple have for a child is to take the route of IVF, procedures that are not covered by their medical insurance, and potentially a loss of thousands of dollars from their savings if it is not successful. The question becomes, at what price a baby? For Kelly that is an easy question to answer, any price is worth it. For Dave it is a much harder one to reconcile, to gamble their savings on a procedure that has no guarantee of success. A deadlock that succeeds in applying further pressure to an already strained relationship.

Dave finally accedes, and the medical adventure begins.

The story does eventually have a happy outcome, but it is a long and tortuous journey that this couple must make.

As I mentioned earlier, there are two ways that you can view this book, though I personally would play down the ‘self help’ aspect, infertility and the surrounding potential conditions are so unique to each situation that I doubt it would be feasible to write a ‘one size fits all’ book. As a biographical account of one womans struggle Tiny Toes shines.

If you are suffering from infertility, or are dealing with a premature baby you likely will get much from this book, it will give you some food for thought.

You can order your copy from Amazon

Simon Barrett

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