Bullys should be registered like sex offenders, they do not stop or change, they just become more skilled and cunning.

Workplace bullies are school yard bullies grown bigger, nastier and slicker at creating pain, and justifying and defending themselves. They’re sneakier and more manipulative. They criticize relentlessly, spread rumors, backstab, take other people’s credit and extort obedience. They destroy teamwork, morale and productivity.

Ignoring the problem or begging, bribery or appeasement simply reinforce low attitudes and behavior at all levels. A major part of the problem are conflict-avoidant leaders, managers and co-workers who think that if we all talk nicely to each other or try to make bullies feel better, they’ll stop bullying or forming bullying cliques.

HR and unions usually won’t help unless it suits their interests at the moment. Of course it’s easier to stop bullies if someone at the top wants to wipe out bullying, but it’s not hopeless even if you can’t find a protector.

Often, the strong and clear voice of an outside consultant and coach can stop bullying behavior or empower managers and staff to remove these bullies. I’ve helped companies and even non-profits and government agencies create and maintain behavioral standards (team agreements, ground rules for professional behavior) that promote productivity and decrease destructive turnover (the business case for the company).

Also, individuals need 1-1 coaching to design effective tactics to fit their specific situations; not to be a better bully, but to catch bullies with smoking guns and with good documentation so you can shine a light on them. You may also need some leverage to get the company to act.

As I show in my books and CDs of case studies, “Eliminate the High Cost of Low Attitudes” and “How to Stop Bullies in their Tracks,” bullies are not all the same, but their patterns of behavior, their tactics, are the same. That’s why we can find ways to recognize and stop them.

If we don’t stop bullies, they’ll think we’re easy prey. Like sharks, they’ll just go after us more.

Don’t think like a helpless victim. Have the strength of character, courage, determination, resilience and skill our ancestors must have had in order to survive far worse than we face now.

Best wishes,
Ben

People try to understand and even excuse bullies for who they are. Sorry but no dice. There is no excuse for that sort of behavior in my opinion. Yes, its a serious problem in this nation. Its a serious problem, period.

Thanks again for your feedback, its much appreciated. Have a good week…..

Take Care,
Elizabeth
http://www.peerabuse.info

Looking for any good thing to come out of it you have to be proficient to fend off all the prowling sharks, punch them in the kisser (technically) and they go elsewhere to seek out a weaker victim- Is it part of the
weeding out process? Dunno’but its a problem.