There are good books, and there are bad books, sometimes you even stumble upon a great book. In my world there is one more level, and you find it very rarely, it transcends the ‘great’ designation, A Place To Belong, belongs in that place! A book that cannot be put down, a book that commands you to keep turning the pages.
Paul Miller maybe a newcomer to the literary world, but he is no newcomer to the harsh realities that the world can serve up.
A Place To Belong was 50 years in the making, it was a book hidden inside the author, hidden deep, a story that took an enormous amount of courage to tell. It is one thing to share the humor of your youth, skipping school, or stealing a farmers apples. It is an entirely different thing to explore the depravity and inhumanity of mankind, particularly when it concerns your own family. “I just want to be a kid” Paul implores of his sister.
Paul is now a successful, and I hope, a mostly happy man, but that was not the case when we first meet him at age 8. His early life was anything but easy. A father that seemed to make random decisions and a mother that seemingly loved Paul, yet followed his fathers wishes without a murmur.
A Place To Belong is probably the most disturbing book I have read in many years. For no apparent reason Paul is dragged from his home in Detroit to Boston, Florida, California, and then back to Detroit. Each move though, introduces a new and frightening deterioration in family life. His father is becoming more and more irrational, while his mother is becoming more introverted.
Paul finds himself increasingly the center of his own world, there is no-one else that he can rely on. The beatings, and the instability of the world around him lead Paul into into a world that no young child should have to face. Survival requires some extra abilities, a little bit of petty theft, and a quick mind are must haves.
This is a kid that is not permitted to be a kid, he goes from toddler to adult almost overnight. One of the most poignant moments in the narrative is Paul’s return to Detroit at age 11 and being reunited with his friends, “They were still little kids, playing pretend games. So, as it turned out, I didn’t want to spend time with them. I think they were just as baffled as I was.â€
How many 14 year olds do you know that have hitch-hiked their way across the states twice? With no money, no real destination, Paul lives day by day. Mostly it is the kindness of others that provide the guiding light, but not everyone has such high principals. Surprising acts of kindness come from unlikely sources, Truckers, Motel Desk Clerks, and maybe the kindest of all, am old black man named Noah. He offered no money, he offered no food, he didn’t even offer shelter. But what he did offer was hope, and hope likely is what got Paul Miller to adulthood. Others that cross Paul’s path have different plans, plans that I care not to even think about.
I work with the homeless, and I have met ‘Paul’ more times than I care to recall.
This is a most disturbing book. It bothered me so much that I broke my rule on reviewing, I actually read a couple of other reviews. ‘It should be mandatory reading in High School’ one said. I have to disagree, Paul Miller survived his ordeal, most kids do not. They just become a statistic.
A Place To Belong is a gripping tale, and I applaud Paul Miller for having the guts to write it. There is humor in it, but is of the dark and mirthless type. You can get your copy from Amazon
There is also an accompanying Web Site that is worth a visit.
Simon Barrett















4 users commented in " Book Review: A Place To Belong by Paul Miller "
Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackI got hooked and couldn’t stop. This is a splendidly written story and quite a story to tell. So candid, unpretentious, and courageous.
For I am his Oldest Daughter,am very proud to be just that. I was born Hard of Hearing, Parents recognized when I was 3, had to catch up in my early years, for this Dad “Paul” had been very encouraging, helped lead my path to a normal life as for my whole family did so to.
The story of Dads childhood into teens shows me he had a man name Noah put words into is mind and heart for God had prepared him for the hard trail he will be entering in his life, he had to make a choice on anything-for bad or wise that for so God was there.
His experience as a kid was a struggle to survive, not knowing what was next? why me? where am I going? who loves me? who can I trust? Do I do or do I not? etc….
To put my life with his, is so different in so many ways,for which everyones is. Some would say “It’s to late”, I have to disagree “ITS NEVER TO LATE”, later there was a place to belong, for he is now a successful man, and happier than ever, he who made sure his family had a place to belong!
His Book is definitley a Book to read, I find I appreciate life even more, I feel it’s a testimony by one of a few. I am not saying this because he is my father, It’s just a great story to pick up and find your own way thru anything.
So get one now, God Bless you thru YOUR journey!!
Amy
P.S. For when I get old and really can’t hear, I’m prepared to just read lips, I know I can make it just fine, cause I already have, God is there!!!
After reading this review, I went to Amazon and bought this book to read.
I was blown away. I don’t know if it had to do with this blog or not, but I literally could not put it down.
From start to finish this book was hands down my favorite in a long time.
It taught me that its possible to forgive no matter how much you hate.
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